I have been married 15 years, to my HS sweetheart. We have one daughter 9. I am new at asking for advice but feeling lost. My marriage was great for the first 10 years. Ups and downs but way more good times than bad. My husband may a very bad decision and fooled around with a co-worker. From that moment on I have had issues with trusting him. I feel that our realtionship deteriated from that moment on. I have been thrown into the "rule maker" role of explaining what is acceptable and what is not. I should not have to tell him how to act around women. He should know. Its not only the women its the internet porno sites. He is addicted, I have tracked 7 days a week atleast 1 hrs min, most times he gets up early (3:30am) and spends atleast 45min to an hours on the websites, then he comes home for lunch and spends most of his lunch time on them. I find that he downloads videos etc. When I asked about the internet stuff , he just says that he is a visual person.
I can assure you I love him, however I am not in love with him anymore. I have lost the spark that made me feel so much for this man. I am at the point of asking for a divorce and going out separate ways. To anyone out there, yes I have gone to a marriage counselor, couples therapist, communications seminars etc. He refused to go to any of these, he says its my problem not his. Any help would be appreciated.