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I took a lot of your advice and made a decision to give him a final chance. I explained in a calm manner that HE had the problems. Not only the porno but the way he behaved with other women. He needs to make a choice, me or his fantasy life. I left out daughter out of the mix, I would never use her against him or as a bargining chip. She is both of ours and we will raise her together however our situtation is. A past poster hit a note for me, yes our sex life has suffered because of his porno and his peverted ways. I say this because I feel he has bee de-sensitized by the internet. I look at sex as an intimate special bond, not one to throw out there like another household chore. Well the update is that he admitted it is HIS problem and that he will do anything to keep us together. We are scheduled for counseling this coming week. He has not been on the computer at all over the past few days. He is paying more attention to me. I am hopeful but not stupid, it takes longer than a few days to break a habit. I will keep you posted.

I have been married 15 years, to my HS sweetheart. We have one daughter 9. I am new at asking for advice but feeling lost. My marriage was great for the first 10 years. Ups and downs but way more good times than bad. My husband may a very bad decision and fooled around with a co-worker. From that moment on I have had issues with trusting him. I feel that our realtionship deteriated from that moment on. I have been thrown into the "rule maker" role of explaining what is acceptable and what is not. I should not have to tell him how to act around women. He should know. Its not only the women its the internet porno sites. He is addicted, I have tracked 7 days a week atleast 1 hrs min, most times he gets up early (3:30am) and spends atleast 45min to an hours on the websites, then he comes home for lunch and spends most of his lunch time on them. I find that he downloads videos etc. When I asked about the internet stuff , he just says that he is a visual person. I can assure you I love him, however I am not in love with him anymore. I have lost the spark that made me feel so much for this man. I am at the point of asking for a divorce and going out separate ways. To anyone out there, yes I have gone to a marriage counselor, couples therapist, communications seminars etc. He refused to go to any of these, he says its my problem not his. Any help would be appreciated.