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no i was making a joke about wiseman2 question, he asked if i was browsing for women, yeah of course, i'm not ready for guys 😂 I am single for 6 months now and i was really over her, i don't know the fact that she came on fb talking to me and asking me questions etc bring me into her again. i have no friends around me they are all maried in another town, doesn't help to stop thinking about nostalgic stuffs... and yes you are right, i should block her 😞 i never asked her to stop dating app

we were able to talk to each other on the app without swiping right or left, because we matched already a year ago ^^ but yeah, i believe too she is the weird one (well i'm not perfect also) but she clearly showed interest at first.. it made me remembering some good moment with her and i feel *** again, i hate myself... yes i do, i'm not ready to brows for guys, but maybe i would have less problems 🥲

wow that's crazy that you remember ! it was 6 months ago! actually i was healing, was thinking about her from time to time but not much, and seeing her on the dating website shocked me, i got something weird in my heart and my belly. Then when i tried to talk to her, she came on facebook and she really seemed interested that's how i got some hope and i got back into her... She is now on like 3 differents dating app... and she got a twin sister who is on these app too... two twins that are 32y old on the same dating app, a bit weird and i see their face all the time... I know that she is weird, even now that's so weird that she though the video was for her, and so weird she though i blocked her on the app while i just deleted my account... So yeah i know that maybe she is not the right person for me... but i also know that i did mistakes, i'm always thinking maybe if i didn't do those mistakes she would be different with me. i'm seeing a psychologist, she told me, maybe she would ask for more if i did everything right, but yeah can't know i will have to forget her again, i did it one time and i don't know, talking to her just 3 days made me into her again 😞 so stupid

thanks for all your reply ! i already wrote my last message and sometimes i want to send it sometimes i don't want, it's weird lol 😅 and btw the video i put on my wall, i was not trying to get her attention because i don't have her in my friendlist and in my native langage "rage" can have two meanings, i don't know if it's the same in english, but there is the rage of winning, and the rage of anger. in my case for the video it was the rage of winning, but she came checking my wall and though it was rage of anger because of her (anger showing my biceps ? it's weird lol). Even my friends said that it was weird she though that lol, and same when i deleted my account on the date app, why did she came asking "why you blocked me on the app". i will never know, some people told me she tried to see if i still wanted her and when she knew she got her ego boost and then she could leave again, i don't know and will probably never know, but it could be. Of course i worked on myself those 6 months, i know that it would be different this time, not sure if i should accept the friendship because with girls once you are in friendzone, it's pretty difficult to get out of it 😞 and i will probably be sad to see her dating other guys too.

I reached out because she visited my profil on the date app, i said hi to her then i closed the app... (because i was scared of her reply) then she reached on facebook asking why i was not replying on the app then i posted a video of me showing my biceps on facebook and i wrote" you can see the rage from my biceps" she came back asking me if this video was for her and asked if i was angry because i saw her on the date app, i told her no it was just a cool sentence that come with the video, nothing about her and i was not angry... then i deleted the date app because i was sad to see her face there everytime, and because she was not seeing me on the app anymore, she though i blocked her... she came asking me : why did you block me on the date app ? you're weird ! i said no i didn't block you, i just deleted the app. then we talked about our life etc... honestly she showed some interest at first and she was also a bit weird thinking that everything was about her. i don't know but yeah anyway, if i don't write anything to her, i can't show that i changed in 6 months and worked on myself... and i really like this girl. 😞

how to show any change and how to say that i realised my mistakes, if i can't write anything to her ?

Hello everyone... So here is my story, i dated a 31y girl i met on a dating app, we were together for 6 months... and after she decided to break up with me... That was mostly my fault, i would say i was not emotionally available because of my previous relationship and i was neglecting her... (for exemple she wanted to see me all the time, and i wanted to see her only on week end). Well, she broke up with me eventhough i told her that i'm gonna change and did all the bad things (begged, pleaded, made a gift etc...) it didn't work, she is a strong woman and kinda stubborn too (she is a military). 😢 So i decided to go no contact and move on with my life... And 6 months passed... So we were together 6 months and i went 6 months no contact. And i saw her on a dating website 2 weeks ago... Honestly it hurted and I told myself well, I have nothing to loose let's send her a message... I got surprised she seemed happy to talk to me and came talking to me on facebook by herself, she looked kinda interested honestly, at least it's how i was feeling it... And after 3 days talking, she told me that we could continue talking but i should not think about anything "more". I told her that i'm not interested in friendship and I walked away... now it's been 2 weeks without talking to her and i'm seeing her face on every dating app, it's getting me crazy...I still have feeling for her and i think about it all the time... I have a friend who got his gf back sending her a letter and saying how sorry he was etc... (but it's different he was in couple for 4 years...) Me it was only a 6 months relationship but i would REALLY love to have another chance with this girl because i honestly believe that i can give alot more than what i did, i realised my mistakes. Of course i can't force her... but do you think i could try to send her a last message ? opening my heart and telling her what i feel and how am i now, i just want to be sure that i'm not doing more harm than good... Some people say the letter is a big NO and for some it worked... i also feel i have nothing to loose but yeah, like i said, i don't want to make it worse (if it's possible to make it worse lol). thanks you for your help!

thank you for your reply 😞

so basically, if i want another chance with her, i should reach out and not wait for her if she want to reach out ? i mean, if i have 5% of chance of getting her back, i just dont want to hurt it by doing something stupid, thank you

some people claimed that their short interests (a few weeks/months) came back more often than their long relationship, so i guess it depends too ? i don't know. but yes i agree with you that people who broke up, when they get back together, it often break again.

why i see couple getting back together often, and why for me, ship is sailed, i'm always wondering that, but i can understand yes

yeah i know, but i don't think i want to heal or something, i think i want her back 😞 and i just don't know how should i behave to get another chance.

thanks, i don't think i am in acceptance, i feel more i am into panic mode en want to reach out to her so bad, i'm asking to myself why she put everything private on facebook eventhough i kinda know it, it's painful damn, i hurt my belly and it gives me diarrhea (sorry saying this) it's weird how emotions can affect our body. 😞

sorry to reply only now, i tried to heal and didn't think about it but i just can't... i just saw she posted a new picture on facebook (i don't have her in my friendlist anymore), but she put everything in private, the old profil picture are gone with the comments, and for the new profil picture, i can't see who liked it and who commented on it, everything is private totally, she probably got a new bf i don't see why she would do that if not. i hurt in my belly a lot, i feel like i want to puke and got diarrea at the same time... the feeling is terrible

you mean about the fact that she reached out asking me this weird question ? or about what i said before ? thanks