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  1. His solution more often that not was to just walk away, he has mentioned before that he is the type of person to want some time to process things before we continue with the conversation. I will admit that during our relationship I didn't allow that to happen most of the time which was my mistake. And now, it seems like every time we hit a wall he just wants to stop working all together, and I should've agreed and left the first time but we both always come back. I personally don't want to keep stressing myself with talking about things all the time but they do bother me, and I can't
  2. You are right...I don't really want that for myself, i just need to muster up the strength to say when enough is enough.
  3. Yes I have, in fact I've been to many therapists every since I was in high school. I'm currently seeing a therapist in training, as it is a free service because I don't have much money but I am in the process of finding an actual professional hopefully soon.
  4. He claims to already be willing to change but that I am too guarded to realize that and put in the work myself... and I also agree... I am now getting headaches every day as well and cold rushes and hot flashes. I wish I had the strength to do what's right for myself but I don't know why it's so difficult. I'm too stuck on what could be and not on what is, and despite everything I still hold on to hope.
  5. What makes me sad is that everyone who I've spoken to about this had said the same thing, but somehow it's very difficult for me to do so. I've always thought myself to be the type of person to immediately walk away and not look back if something like this happens as I am very big on loyalty, but it appears that is not the case, and I don't know why. As for his addiction, as far as I'm concerned he is withholding himself from anything sexual.. apart from us having sex that day I suppose. And he did go to therapy but from what I gathered, he stopped.
  6. Once again I will apologize because this might potentially become another long post It might help to read my first post if you'd like, just have some context. But if you don't that's okay. I still don't know how this site works btw This is kind of an update for my first post. Since breaking up with my boyfriend we've been trying to talk things out and working through our issues with the goal of getting back together. As I've mentioned before I broke up with him in February just a week shy of our 2 year anniversary. And since then we've been trying to work things out.
  7. Thank you for your reply, I have always struggled to believe that people are capable of changing which is why I doubted he could at first. I am very glad that you have also realized your actions are negatively impacting the people you care about and I really do wish you the best. He seems to be the same way in the sense that me breaking up with him was his wake up call, and he doesn't want to hurt me anymore. But of course I would need to see the change within his actions. The things that lead to all of this have been addressed and are currently being addressed yes, he claims that he does
  8. He has been very vocal about him really wanting to correct his horrible behavior, and more importantly in showing it through his actions. So I really hope you are right. And yes the concern is trust, I am understandably hesitant but there is a part of me that really wants to trust him again. To answer your question, at the beginning of our relationship things were great, I had very little to no insecurities until time passed and some things happened that created those insecurities within me (to which he took responsibility for) so I would constantly be voicing out my fears of him bei
  9. Yes I am very much aware now, and I am more than open to working on my anger issues. I know that violence is not good for neither the man or woman to do and it is my one regret throughout the whole thing. Thank you for your reply, I completely understand and I do not wish this kind of life for us or anyone.
  10. I would really appreciate some help please. This might be very long so I apologize. I broke up with my boyfriend around February, just a week or so before our 2 year anniversary. The reason being is that I found out that he was secretly going on cam girl services to pleasure himself, he had been messaging random girls on snapchat for pics, I found other girls pictures on his phone and he even had a secret Instagram account where he just followed a lot of half naked women. I confronted him about it and at first he said he didn't do anything but very very quickly admitted to what he d
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