capitan_de_castilla

Hey gentlemen! A couple of months ago I ask for an advice. I was fall in love with my secretary, and I ask if I should try to seduce her... I received three answers: all of them told me to not get involved with her 'cause I could get some problems, such as If we broke up the labour relationship was broken, or worse if she didn't appreciate my tryings to seducer I could be accused of trying to seduce her in work or stuff like that. Despite this, (damn! I'm really dummie!) I try to seduce her. At the beginning it did work fine. Last week I invite her to a date... And that ruined everything. You can imagine the rest of the story. She was very hurt with me, she barely talk with me... I apologize myself and I promise I'll never ask her for a date in my whole life, and I'll never disturb her again. Despite this she thinks I'm a monster, and she never will forgive me, although my intencion was to meet her better, and never to hurt her... Worse of all, I still love her, and I'm trying to forget her. Remember this: when u ask for an advice and everybody share the same opinion, follow that advice, otherwise you'll be in trouble. Thank you very much! Capitan_de_castilla

Ok Gentlemen, this is my problem: ---THE FACTS--- 1-I'm a 25 year-old lawyer, and I have a 20 year-old brunette secretary. 2-I red many tips and advices about atracting women in your website, and I start put them in practice (eye contact, smiling, conversational tips, etc.. And I care about my physical appearance) two weeks ago. Usually is she who breaks the eye contact, and she usually smiles when i talk to her looking to the floor. 3-I did fall in love with my secretary (how original i am )... 4-She's depressed because her boyfriend wants to dump her, and he's not very nice with her. 5-I show her I'm worried about her and I want to help her, but she doesn't have much confidence on me, so I can't know many things about her private life. 6-She's very hot!! Despite this, I never told her how's beautiful she is and this sort of things, because i want be original, so I like to tell her how smart she is, or how gentle she is, attributes i know she is not used to hear (for example: today she cleaned my office; when i arrived i noticed it, and i told her a fairy been in my office??"."No .Why?"she replied."Because it looks so great I thought a fairy cleaned it..."she laughed and smile looking to me, so i put in practice the eye contact "weapon", only broke by her...) 7- I don't feel uncomfortable when i talk to her; actually i feel very confident, because it's fun trying to seduce her... 8-But, usually, I'm tho only one who breaks the ice, and start the conversation. 9-I'm not looking to talk with her all the time, because I don't want to put any kind of pressure on her/our relationship. --- MY FEARS--- 10-I work/live in a small town where everybody is well known. 11-I'm afraid to invite her to a drink, because I fear she reject's the invitation and told everyone I tried to seducer her. 12-A boss who tries to seduce his employees against their will is severally punished by portuguese law. 13-And his image may be seriosly affected in the town he lives... 14-Most of the time, It's me who start's the conversation, so I don't know if she is not feeling confortable to talk with me. (except in profissional issues). 15-Our conversations are the "I-ask-she-answers" type. ---SO I ASK FOR YOUR OPINION--- 16- Should I continue with my "seducion campaign" on her, and have more pacience? Or should I give up? 17- Do you think I'm acting properly with her? 18- Do you have some more advices/tips to make her fall in love with me? Thanks for your help!