myuko1

I did. Blocked him on all social media etc , just not his phone number. Even though he broke up with me I wouldn't completely eradicate his existence in case something happened to him. I'm moving on, but I'm not that pent up in my feelings or that cold. I'm not very keen on the sudden disposal of ex partners mantra. If someone is that disposable to you because they didn't appease your needs, then it makes me question the sentiment of the relationship because often these things are very tangible. Of course, It's not questionable where there is abuse, cheating, things of that nature involved. The whole 'don't contact' ex thing ... I get it, it works, but there are cases where people do contact their ex's and go on to marriage. It's not super common, but it happens and it really makes me wonder how many relationships were completely lost for a fighting chance, due to the advice of NC.

Just to add some more. Getting back together really is quite common .. My brother just got back with his girlfriend after they broke up over 5 months ago. She was heartbroken, wrote him love letters, and he blocked her. Now they are suddenly back together..... My friend, she was in a 4.5 yr relationship with her ex and they broke up 4 years ago. Had limited contact in the first year, then lost contact after. She dated a couple guys, got married, had a baby and is now getting ready to divorce her now husband. She told me the other day she contacted her previous ex and was very intrigued to hear from him ... They've spoken briefly, but from what I can tell, her interest has sparked because he moved on and made progress in his life and she finds this very attractive. Even told me she felt like she made a mistake leaving him and wish she didn't walk away so easily and tried harder, and felt she was young and slightly immature about it. I actually don't think they will get back together but who knows. He was honestly the best she's had even from my knowledge and she knows it. All my ex's have come back, but I myself had honestly moved on, although I entertained one which turned out to be an absolute disaster and more heartbreak, but I learnt. One guy... we dated for about a month , then bam, he ghosted me. I was so hurt because I really liked him, but managed to move on. This idiot then spent 2 WHOLE YEARS texting me trying to get me back on his good side again, but he was honestly a waste of space and I never entertained him again because he was super emotionally immature. One of my previous ex's was mad that I didn't chase him enough after he broke up with me ... weirdo. My current ex who broke up with me made some extremely childish and nasty comments when he broke up with me after a year. Went NC and he messaged me 6 weeks after asking how I was and he was checking up on me ... I barely responded because I didn't want to start the up and down of him being in and out the picture. The relationship looking back was extremely lacking in many areas BUT I miss him like hell, so I'm conflicted in seeing him again if it was possible. I broke NC *bad bad* and called him after almost 8 months and we had a phone conversation just to see how he was but we haven't spoke since.

Here is a story. I worked with a girl at my old job. She moved to LA from San Francisco, and her boyfriend of almost 3 years was due to move with her. Anyway, she was in LA for about 4 months and kept wondering why her BF was taking so long to move down, but his reasonings were that he needed to find a job and also finishing things up in the bay area. Eventually, on a trip home to SF one weekend, he took her to the airport to return to LA after the weekend and told her he had met someone else and would not be moving down to meet her. Cold and cruel and SHE WAS DEVASTATED ! She packed up all her stuff in LA and moved back up to SF to try and reconcile things with him. He would not give her the time of day at all and she spent the next 6 weeks begging then gave up. His reasoning was that she did not want kids and he did, but he completely let the relationship go the wrong way despite this issue. She spent the next year and half taking cocaine, drinking, traveling etc. I felt so bad for her. After 2 years at her new job in the bay at a hair salon, her ex's mother came into the salon to get her hair done. Weird thing is, she was asking my friend a ton of questions about her life and saying how her son is doing. She just listened and didn't take much note. Either days or weeks later, his mother contacts her again to go for lunch and she agrees. His mother was talking all about how his new girlfriend was crazy and hell to live with, and she then told her that he wanted to invite her to a baseball game. She didn't say a word, declined and left. Her ex was trying to get her back through his mother because he was a coward to even do it himself. The weeks following, she received all kinds of messages, etc asking her to go out from the ex. She had already moved on and the pain of the breakup had been enough to bare. Eventually, she packed all her stuff and moved back to LA to restart her dreams and life again. She told me, the biggest mistake she made was leaving when he broke up with her because he wasn't worth that much for how much of a coward he was. So there you have it ... they didn't get back together but he definitely came back. His loss and her gain to improve herself and move on.