Hello, I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he was sleeping with another girl (who i found out sleeps with a lot of guys). He denied it til the end and now his excuse is he "didn't sleep with her until after i broke up with him" (b.s). Here is my dilemma: I am a virgin and we were trying to have sex but I was taking my time with it. I simply did not trust him enough yet (we had been dating for 2 months) and simply was not ready. We would do other things that I know he enjoyed. At first he was fine with it: he said he was not with me for that and would not lie to me or f--- me over. He would say it was totally up to me and that he did not want to hurt me. He is a good-looking guy and a bartender in our college town and had plenty of chances to cheat and behaved for me. What I want to know is, is it my fault he cheated b/c I needed to go slow with the sex thing? We had only actually known each other for 2 months-I needed time to trust him first. I don't think I was being cold or unsatisfying-we did everything under the moon except for intercourse. I told him it would happen in time, that my body would stop holding back when the time was right and he seemed fine with it most of the time(sometimes, towards the end he would get frustrated if i wanted to stop b/c it hurt too much and sometimes would make references to how i wouldn't give it up). Please someone tell me it wasn't my fault. Please someone tell me he will realize what he lost when I found out he cheated and dumped him. Please someone tell me it will not work out with this girl who he wanted to have sex with but wanted to keep dating me.Why do people who cheat still want to stay with their mate? If they are not happy in the relationship, why not just be honest and get out of it!!! --Suzanne
