LifePuzzle

Some of you might remember my topic a while back, link removed , and just thought I'd post an update to say cheers to everyone in this forum! Last few weeks have been great, I've really got to know her well and we both really like each other, all started really suddenly when we were just walking by the river one day and there was some private land with a tire swing in it...so naturally not being able to resist the temptation of a tire strung from a branch we climbed over the fence..and yeah. Just like that scene in Notting Hill. This forum has been really helpful to find out things and build up confidence and stuff so just want to thank you all for all your sound advice. For ages I really wasnt convinced she had any interest in me whatsoever but I'm glad that you guys suggested otherwise! so what can i say? keep posting and have a good day/night depending on where you live

Anyone? Also its her birthday this thursday and mine on saturday, should I ask her to do something or would that be stupid given the situation? Would giving her a card be a good idea? Talking to charlie?

OK ill be needing some more advice now! So update: Went to the party yesterday, I arrived slightly earlier and watched the footie with some people, lit the bbq. heheh, we had loads of meat all reduced...wonder how that happened then I stupidly let 2 of my female friends style my hair...omg i thought girls had fashion sense! Ended up having to wash my hair again, dry with the snoopy hair dryer , all while having people at every window with camera phones, was like big brother So anyway at like 7 when people started arriving I had something to talk about heh but yeah I socialise with everyone, move between the groups etc etc but all the time I was consciously thinking..'I shouldnt be here I should be there..' *looks at abi*. Then some of my not so close friends want me to play this game where you eat a sweet out of someones breasts and one of my close friends comes over and tells me as if i didnt know 'wtf if you do that you'll blow all chances' and im just like, 'how stupid do I look?'. So that gives me chance to leave them and I go to abi and her friend and talk to them for a while, end up with her friend teaching me some dancing moves and yeah was quite fun. Anyway I wanted to ask abi a question but I kept on missing the oportunities...Like we had a game of mercy and ended up up on the floor, but OMG every time I had the perfect chance some bum strides in. She went and sat on a chair in the garden yeah, and I went and sat next to her and then someone just pulled up a chair as well and im like ahhh. Almost finished btw, bear with me! So then I somehow end up dancing with her in the garden doing the stuff Id just been shown, and every two mins my fricking mate kept coming up to her and stealing her glowsticks! Oh yeah we found some glowsticks lying around. So then she chases him to get them back and stuff so i just nick another, give it to her, carry on where left off and am thinking, 'OMG 2 mins till he comes back go go go'. So we start inventing our own dance and she leads for a bit, then its this convo: 'now its your turn to lead, whats next?' ''ok, how about a question?' 'A question?' 'yeah, you know that I like you don't you' ''kinda' 'Well, what do you say to that question?' 'I like you too *smiles* but I don't know whats happening with Charlie right now' So then we stop and I talk to her alone for 5-10 mins about it and I gather that if charlie wasnt in the picture then... but yeah they broke up ages ago but I dunno something happened over easter I think, though she said that at college he doesnt show her any kind of affection so what she said I think was, 'Ill let you know'. This is towards the end of the evening so then 10 mins later I see her going and I go up and give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and she hugs back. So yeah this is where you come in..what do I do now?? Im guessing the best thing to do is to stay in contact but leave off a little to give her time to think? What would you all do given my situation? Cheers, Tim

Yeah I remember it, thanks. If my memory was that bad id be failing all my exams in june Heh this forum is great, you guys (/gals) are very knowledgeable and helpful cheers. @ smallworld: good points! I guess 'Ms. Fleece' must know a good guy when she sees one I will be sure to have fun at the party..could be very fun indeed... @ speardane: sorry for cracking you up, i hope you fix yourself ok. Ill make sure I spend more time playing the game in future, fact I just won an advance to go card See you in Mayfair. Future's bright, future's...ah screw it, later!

Ok well I spent ages talking to her today, it was great After college she was going to go home but i persuaded her to come to the park with some people and we played firsby and kicked a ball around for a while. So yeah anyways both me and her are going to a party at the weekend and I was kinda looking for some advice on what to do? I mean..won't she think its kinda strange that I only have a passing comment with her for years and then suddenly talk to her every day and send her messages?? Everyone has high expectations and keeps pestering me now which is annoying...but im still not convinced she likes me...uh huh i know what you're thinking, but she's the kind of person that is nice and friendly to the extent that she wouldnt say if she didnt like you or not. if that makes sense? Cheers for all the replies so far

Heheh ok..i found out that before I sent my message my mate sent one to her..to which I also found out he kinda let on that I liked her...right..cheers man. So what I did was to text her again (this is 2 days later) but didnt mention the previous message at all and she replied at around 12:15 am...I was still up though doing some work but phone was on silent so I reply around 1 but she's asleep then obviously. That was yesterday, so today I go to college and find out that my mate told her that I liked her, so I blanked her for most of the day, not that I wanted to you understand I said she was one of my best mates best friend yeah well normally I go up to him even when I don't really have much to say just because she's around him quite a lot so it makes it easier for me to bring her into the conversation and talk to her. Anyway so I went to the library for lunch and they were there and I was talking to my mate for literally the entire time when she was a chair away but not talking to her. But then at like 6ish in the evening she texts me replying from the one the night before etc. Tbh I don't really know what i'm asking for from this post...guess just does it look at all promising? Also kinda funny that I keep seeing/hearing signs..like i switched on the radio earlier and it played, 'Abi, call now to get your quote'. Abi's her name and Abbeynational the bank for those that don't know. Damn funny at the time! Oh I almost forgot apparently the guy that she was going out with mucked her around quite a lot and wasnt very kind to her at some point (i don't understand that at all and if you met him you'd know what i mean) but yeah i'm not actually sure they're completely finished...or thats what I heard from somewhere..havnt seen any signs of them together or anything though.

ok so I text her yeah asking her what she thought of the party at the weekend and I don't get any reply. However...my mate texts her too as I find out today and she replied to him like 4 times. Ahh, im confuzzed. PM me when 'Girls for dummies' is released. Heh nah but what does this mean?

Cheers for the advice, and so quick too! Heheh, that actually made me laugh, so true! Yeah id imagine like im running hurdles and i concentrate so much on getting over that I don't realise it was positioned on the edge of a cliff...ow. (I like analogies by the way, gets the message accross ) The funny thing is she's quite shy too, i mean she only really talks to people she knows well and she has a quiet voice, I like that actually. Also you have to remember (not that i told you yet) she was a little tipsy at the time; at least i think she was. Id love to make something of it but the fact that I see her every day and on saturday (work) would kinda put me off as eventually every single person would know. If you did anything stupid itd be like, 'This just in! Crazy guy wants nice girl, no its not April fools day' Thing is I could say Id make a go of it but I know in reality I probably won't. Right up until 5 mins before id be going to make a go of it. Cheers for all the advice so far, and yeah my humour is like marmite; you either..well you get the idea. 8)

Yeah, I know loads of people like that..Its like a competition with them so they can show off to their mates. I agree with the other people I reckon you just havnt found the true gems yet.

Ok first things first this is my first visit to this forum..so, heres hoping you're all nice and cool people Don't really know where I'll be going with this so just bear with me because Ill probably write stuff in the wrong order or something. Ok well, i always used to be a really shy person and even though i wanted to talk to and get to know girls it just wouldnt happen. What id probably do is plan out how the conversation would go in my head but when it came to the crunch if just one thing was different it wouldnt work. Its like trying to climb a mountain and only having one route to get up there. Ain't ganna happen. I didnt do many clubs and things when I was younger so the only people I met were from school really and because I'd always been shy they had a not so great opinion of me. However fairly recently (within the last year) ive become way more confident and out going where I can meet new people and talk to them fairly easily, but its the people ive known from before that I can't really talk to that well, its like they have a prejudice against me from before. Anyway theres this girl at college who I like and I can make her laugh and things but I feel strange around her like I'm always saying the wrong thing, or more that after I say something I kick myself even if the reaction wasnt that bad. She was going out with this guy (who's really nice) for quite a while so I didnt think anything of this, I mean she was just someone who was stunning and really nice but alas already taken. So anyway she had a party for the new year to which I attended (she's in my friendship group btw) but I wasnt really having a good day that day and I didnt really fit into the atmosphere to the point where she even asked if i was alright, i hate that! So yeah since then Ive spoken to her a few times but only ever chit chat really, she works at the same place as me too and sometimes we have a conversation at lunch. Anyway I went to one of my mates parties very recently and she was there too, and I noticed that she kept on taking herself off and sitting on her own, like she wanted someone to come and sit next to her. One of my mates was trying to get me to go and talk to her but I didnt have the guts..it annoys me, if it was someone else I could have done I reckon. So yeah he went up and was talking to her instead but nothing happened. Then at the end of the party she came up to me and said just out of the blue, 'Tim is my favourite guys name by the way', case you didnt get that my names Tim...and we were outside and I was pretty cold so she lent me her fleece. But yeah, that was completely unexpected and can someone please put me out my misery and tell me I was reading too much into it ^. Im good at making friends but bad at taking it further so Ive probably missed loads of opportunities in my life but don't want to again! Cheers for any advice! sorry if you feel like you're back at school reading an essay!