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cool, I don't want to say it's what caused the breakup, the ramifications would to large for quite a lot of people to say that at the moment. But I just haven't heard or read anything about the pill actually effecting peoples emotions and behaviour, it really is made out like the perfect drug. But as my ex said to me, she just doesn't know what changed, she just did. So i'm just trying to find out if anything simular has happened to other people. anyone else?

loss sucks, I know, I think i'm about three weeks ahead of you, and for me it's getting harder, but it doesn't for all. All i've found out... time will tell, and everything must playout in it's own time, life cannot be rushed and must be lived from one day to the next, that's about all I can focus on at the moment, when we rush things, we can stuff them up. Live for the feeling in your memory, yes that happy one, because that's what you're really after, so live for the next one, not the last one. The best and hardest thing is to know you're not the first, and will not be the last. How anyone else could feel like you is hard to believe, but here we are, you'll make it through a better person, you'll be one of the lucky ones to see all beauty and all pain in the world, you're more human than you know it... well... now your starting to know it. Remember this is coming from someone feeling just like you. If we can take this, we can take anything. Good luck is what I want to hear, so Good Luck to you

What i'm suggesting is most likely wrong, i'd like to hear it from more than one person though. That was my point. anyone else?

The only woman i've fallen for.. it took me about 4 months to work out what I was feeling... maybe i'm a little stupid but at the time everything you feel is new and you don't understand it... I don't remember playing games, but you can feel like you can't get close to the person you're actually interested in, you don't know the boarder between trying to take a friendship to the next level and how much time you can spend working out what you feel by being next to them.

I'm guessing you might still like him It's a chance for you to be alone with the guy, which means... you can keep a friendship going, that's where all relationships start, and it sounds like he's willing to listen if you have anything you'd like to tell him which probably means he still wants something to do with you. Doesn't mean you going to get back together, but start with friends if you still like him, and take it from there.

[edited thread title to be more descriptive] I wanted to make this a poll, and get yes or no answers from people but it seems I can't do that and you'll just have to post under this. Story: My ex-girl friend broke up with me about three weeks ago, after what had been a perfect 6 month relationship from my point of view, there may have been something I didn't know. I asked her what changed, and she said she doesn't know, she just changed. For two weeks before that day we hadn't been seeing much of each other, just because we were both really busy with university and work. I know she loved me in the past and I know I love her, it's something everyone here that knows what love is can say, you can just tell. I pretty sure my ex went on the pill exactly between those weeks in which we didn't see each other, she said she was going to. My mother believes the pill was the cause of her marriage breakup, she said she managed to keep it together while she had me and my sister but once she came off the pill for good she simply no longed loved my father and couldn't live with that. Please note I've found nothing to confirm her thoughts but the circumstances match, I just need answers. There's a lot more that I could say has brought me to ask this question but it would take a long time to explain and read. I wrote it all out but I realise I really just want to hear from you guys. I know you can all come up with lots of questions from what i've said and I have the answers to them but I need your answers so try and just post if you've experienced the same thing to the question below. I'm basically after any other people that had major relationship changes after they/their partners/ex-partners went on or off the pill, you may have to read the question a few times to get what i'm asking, it's hard to ask the same question for men and women so read it a few times if you have to. Question: Did you or your partner/ex-partner... A.) start a new relationship after you/they went on or off the pill? B.) end a relationship after you/they went on or off the pill? C.) both... (eg you got dumped and they moved onto someone else quickly) D.) or… didn't happen to my relationship, we're in love on or off the pill AND you know it's been tested and you're still in love with no doubts. And if you know the brand you/your partner uses, list it with your answer. Many thanks.