tots429

Here’s a story: My aunt and uncle started dating right before my aunt turned 16. In fact, my aunt’s 16th birthday party was where my parents first met her husband (boyfriend at the time). They dated through HS and broke up the summer before they left for college - my aunt being the one to break it off because she thought that there was no way she’d end up with her HS sweetheart. So they went off to separate universities and each dated different people but never stopped talking. Eventually, my uncle transferred to my aunt’s school (not because she was there but because it ended up being a better fit) and they got back together around their junior year. My aunt, as she was telling me this story, told me that “there was just no denying it.” My uncle scoffs/laughs at it and calls their breakup a “break”. I got their full story because I’m currently on month 3 of a breakup with my “HS sweetheart”. We left it a little more open-ended than they did but it’s still been extremely rough because we both were crazy about each other and had a very hard time going through with the breakup. Essentially, his parents were the catalyst to the issue, claiming the healthiest way to enter college is to do it single. (They met and fell in love in college.). He’s had more peace about it than I have. We ended it early to allow ourselves to heal - it’s been a very rough year for the both of us. We talked nonstop in the month following the breakup, went to prom together, and then I told him I needed space to allow my heart to catch up with my head. I very recently re-opened the lines of communication (been about 2 months of NC/LC), and we agreed that our friendship is the most important thing about us, regardless of what happens romantically. I don’t think either of us are over each other (I know I’m not) and it kinda feels like we’re kidding ourselves a bit. We will see. Starting college in the fall. I want y’all to know that no matter what happens, you will get through this. I am not anywhere near the other side and I still have hope/faith that what’s meant to be will be because it’s true. And for those of you that are young and in love - remember that love has no age. Just because you met young does not make the relationship any less real or powerful. I am a strong believer in love, and I’ve kept that belief intact even after a devastating breakup (even though it was mutual). God bless you all. I will post again later down the road.