Jammy Biscuit

So I have a lovely story for you guys... I always promised that once I finished reading all these 231 pages myself I would join and post this story. Before I start just want to say a massive thank you to all of you who have posted throughout the years. I know a lot of people say it’s false hope but reading these stories helped me heal. I’m just about 7 months post break-up with instant no contact following that. He was my first love, I started dating late in life. I’m 26 now so this took a massive knock to me as he was my first for everything. If it wasn’t for these stories from this threat. I don’t think I would have had such a positive outlook on everything. Will I get back with my ex? I still have no idea. He is the love of my life but right now I have no idea if there is a future for us. For now I can just focus on me and go from there. I need to focus on what else is out there. So that’s what I’ve come to learn, focussing on yourself and not being hung up is the key. I am not going to lie it’s been hard, the constant urge to message him is still there. Also he occupies my thoughts still but not as much as he used to in the beginning. You have to try and look at the bigger picture, so keep staying strong everyone. I’ve started dating now and keeping myself busy with work and friends. I can’t stress this enough focus on yourself guys. Right now I don’t sit hoping for it all to work out with him. Because life goes on and I’ve come to understand if it’s meant to be. It will be. If he reaches out I’ll welcome him. I’m at a stage right now in my life that I will not push for it on my side. Everything happens for a reason I believe. Enough of me waffling on. Let’s get to the story... A friend of mine dated a girl for 8 months back in university. She was about to start her final year and with the pressure of that she decided to split. I believe it was amicable. Doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt him. She wanted to remain friends but he said he couldn’t so they went no contact for almost three and a half years... Now during this time they both had separate relationships. I’m not sure the ins and outs of hers. But I’ll go on a side note on his after. His ex from uni reaches out to him after those three and a half years. We came to learn that she had just broken up with her boyfriend and was touching base with him. He messaged politely and left it at that. As he was still with his girlfriend at the time he didn’t push the conversation and it was left with the odd message and nothing more. They never met at this point and conversation fizzled. Now back about my friend’s relationship he had between getting back with his ex. They were together for around two years, anyway she called it off with him. Really random but it wasn’t a healthy relationship as she was very possessive. Following the break-up... My now single friend reaches out to his 1st ex who reached out to him. He never contacted her for it to go anywhere. Just now he didn’t feel guilty catching up with her as he is single. Anyway... things naturally blossomed between them. They have been together since last September officially. So about 7 months in now (literally got together during my breakup - so gave me hope). They spend weekends together doing cute weekend trips and even went on holiday in this time. They seem so happy. It’s beautiful. This shows if things are meant to be they will be. They are currently in the process of buying a place together and will move in together soon. Back to the side note of his ex who dumped him. She reaches back out to him too. Messaging constantly, guess she realised it was a mistake leaving him. Then she found out he was back with his uni. She went ballistic... making fake social media accounts and making their life hell. To top it off though she went back with an ex of hers and despite that couldn’t let my friend go. Goes to show ex’s do regret things and do come back... some may return in a crazy way when it’s too late or in a beautiful way like his relationship now. I am so happy for the two of them. Shows it can happen. But, with this story it only happened after they both moved on with life. Both had a long term relationships in between. Went no contact and found each other again after time apart living. Thank you again for all of you who have posted throughout the years. Hope this story helps you guys like it did me. Stay strong everyone x