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Jessicate, thank you so much for your advice and also thanks to you, Bleeder. Yesterday we spoke to eachother on the phone about going on a holiday together in the summer (with my parents and their friends, that means we will be the only two youngsters). He said that he absolutely liked to come, but it's not 100% sure yet because he'll be on a trip with his buddies before that and still doesn't know when he'll be back. So he has to find out. I asked him to be honest and he really said, ''yes, I do want to go with you all''. I hope he's telling the truth, cause if he lets me down I'll be alone on that trip My other friends are ''poor students'' and also have other plans with their bfs and gfs. And my parents have to take leave from now on, so I have to decide and I don't want to go without my bestfriend. I' ve made the decision not to call him again for sometime, because the last few times it was always me who called. Maybe I shouldn't show him that I miss him (which I do, even when I'm with other friends). Please, if you have any new tips on how to ''treat'' him , please tell me! I am so thankful to you all!

I'm so upset. Here's my story: I've been in love with my best friend (he is also two years younger than me which makes him 20) for 5 years. In all these years I hadn't told him about it because I had feared that he would say ''no'' because of the age difference and the distance of 220km. Well, last month I managed to tell him and he said that he wasn't able to answer because he had never thought that I would make the first step. Later, on the phone he said that he wanted to tell me something in person. But when we met again (4weeks later) he didn't say anything until I asked him ''what was it you couldn't tell me on the phone. How do you think about the fact that I love you?'' His answer: ''Good question. I always change my mind. But at the moment I feel that we're best of friends, not gf+bf. When I'm in my hometown I feel that you're my bestfriend, but when I visit you....you're so nice to me..oh , I don't know. But you are my closest friend.'' Of course we are best of friends, he's my soulmate and I have long telephone-bills. But secretly I can't stop loving him although HE is not feeling me. He admitted being in love with me when he was 16/17yrs old, so it cannot be that I'm NOT his type. I'm really getting sick. And I swear that I don't want to date any other guys because I've already had too much stress for the moment. He doesn't have a gf either. I asked him if he would be jealous if I had a bf and he answ. ''that's your decision. I have never been jealous of anyone in my entire life'' ( you know, in a ''cool'' way of answering) Before leaving (when we were not in front of our parents) I hugged him for a while and while doing that kissed him on the cheek - he did it back. What do you think is going on in the boy's head? How shall I handle him in the near future? Is it good if I make it difficult for him to get me (in case if he suddenly likes me)? Shall I NOT hug him the next time we meet? (as before) I BEG YOU TO HELP ME! [/b]