MrLonely

I'd rather take the girl who likes me for me, not cause i throw a ball. 8)

On the other hand, you might get noticed more (if your not getting noticed now..)

I duuno - i dont want to devalue what we had or might have...call me a dork!

Any female voices out there?

No, I was just stating in case to her. She said friends, see where it goes, if it is good then yeah - if not, the friends.

I ment in the mean time, if someone else comes along, am i tossed to the side? And she said maybe, see when/if it happens.

Oh - i mean the other person coming along for both of us. Thats what confused me.

Yeah that almost quoting her. If all the bad is gone, we are perfect.

I just dont want to be played.

I also said, "what if somone else comes along" and she said, thats it - if they do they do.....

My thoughts exactly. She did say however that she doesn't want to jump in quickly, find that its still the same (my issues) and then have to breakup again, hurting us both again.

She mentioned that she thought it would "get easier", but it didn't and she does miss me.

She is acting really cutsie and stuff like when we first started, which i really enjoy - with reservations.

Since we are not together yet - i am trying my best to be the best i can be, and to "woo" her again.

I'm waiting now anyway - 2 weeks until exams are over. (not a lot of time i know)

Do i need to fully heal first? Does this mean get over her?

Well. After all my posts in the last week, she msg me. We talked for a bit and went out to eat. She told me alot. She said that she still loves me and that she couldn't stop thinking about me the whole time (3 weeks). I inquired about the "other guy" and sure enough he turned out to be an idiot, and it fizzled 2 weeks ago. She apologized for everything that was said, she was not mad at me - just mad at herself and not handling her feelings properly. I forgave her, since i do love her.

She told me she wants to start hanging out and see where it goes. She doesn't want to jump back into it right away - she is unsure if i changed some of my bad ways. (Let me tell you, i was jealous and argumentative before, picking little fights all the time, that kind of crap. I have done some thinking and i am changing for the better). She said that if i can prove to her i dont carry that crap anymore, the relationship will be perfect.

She tells me she is finding it exciting (as am i) hanging out now, it feels like when we first started going out (1.5 years ago). She says that she loves the excitment and that the old relationship got "too comfortable". Each time we part now, she hugs me very tight and starts to cry. I almost do too.

I am being taken for a ride? Or does this sound sincear enough?

Opinions please - keeping in mind that i love her very much, but at the same time i am very cautious.

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Ok, me and my gf, have been going out for a couple weeks, I havnt kissed her yet (which is going to change soon, Im just going to ask her and do it)

No asking - just do it 8)

Is it advisable, when her friends ask how i am, to tell the truth (broken, depressed, missing her) or say that i am doing excellent?? How does this work with the NC??

She was indirectly speaking to me last night, through her MSN name. She would change her's to reflect on what mine was set to. I tried to ignore it - but if she wants to talk can't she just call?? Her final msg was "i dont know what to do...... So i thrown with these mind games again.

Any comments would be appreciated...

In doing the NC thing, is it advisable to tell her friends that I am doing "wonderful" if they ask? Or fully breakdown???

As for "speaking" with her last night (and if anyone can explain that!!) - it gave so much hope

Interesting now how she is trying to "talk" to me through Instant messenger names...grr..

But i'm resisting and moving on. 8)

I thought i had the one...but she left me.

So - I'm guessing the "one" just doesn't run off suddenly.

I agree and I dont want pity.

I just love the way we were together. It was not perfect all the time, but it was still great.

She is still a bit immature and has some growing to do. Somtimes it was like we were in high school, with the way she would act. Also, she is the type of person that breaks down when she is having emotional issues.

In all, I want it back the way it was. She is not interested.

The hardest thing i can do is accept that is it over - when it was so vibrant so short ago.

Yeah - I do. Ultimatly, I love her and I want her to be happy, even if it means not being with me.

The way she is acting is the pecular thing, it's playing mind games with me.

And the whole acting as if If we never knew each other is the hardest to take.

Thats all I can do I guess.

Some days I feel good, others I'm just falling apart.

I'll need lots of time.

It was my chemical makeup. I had bad acne in jr high - tried everything; changing my diet, topical cream (both perscription and non-perscription), everything.

Nothing worked until my doctor perscribed acutane. I had no side effects.

Now it's 10 years later and i get the scatter pimple, which i take care of with a perscription of erythromycen - solugel.

I would love nothing more then to call her - but I am so afraid.

I do not understand why I can be so afraid to call somone I was so close with for so long. We shared a very close bond.

I know it's a bad idea.

(BTW if anyone wants to jump into my post above, please feel free - save me the cost of a therapist )

Ok - sounds good.

I foolishly set my msn nickname to various memories that she could relate to, and after 4 days she changed hers to "F-OFF".

Well, that was a major blow, but i did bring it on myself. She has been making some snide comments about me, about missing me, to other people. I just dont get that - if she is done, there is no need for the sarcasim. That i dont understand. Check out this post on "attempting" to understand the way they act:

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So i guess now i will disappear. I will block her on my instant messengers (since i am always on)...maybe she can wonder what i am doing??

Does forever mean forever??

I guess "make" was a bad word to use.

The way it ended is still hurting, it was so sudden.

I am guessing if I stay out of her life, there might be a chance that she will miss me, as opposed to begging, crying...all that?

3 weeks ago, my gf of 1.5 years broke up with me. Reasons; she didn't love me anymore, loved me less then I her, and that there is a new guy she is interested in. Everything ended so suddenly.

She goes to a different college then I, and works in the next city (only 10 mins away).

I miss her so much, and i have told her this (2 weeks ago) but she wants nothing more to do with the relationship. I havn't spoke to her since.

Like all couples, we did so much together, so many memories and we went on a trip to disneyworld together 3 months ago.

What is the best way to have me "miss me". When we were together she always spoke of her love to me (and her friends) and now it's like we never were.

She did volunteer information to me like "I still have all your pics up" and that stuff, so what to do?

Congrats

I'm going through a breakup here now, it's been three weeks, and i havn't talkted to her since. It was very sudden and she told me that we are finished for good.

Just wondering, did you guys end on final terms?

Yeah, thats so true. I would take relationship sex anyday. Much more meanignful when you love the person.

My numbers are the same, only 4 which i am proud as well at 22.

Well...

I have had some friends w/benifits, and it was a great experience. We basically got together to "get off" and thats it. No comittment, no nuttin.

It actually gave us a chance to "experiment" and get good at things.

I unfortunately had too many "partners" at one point, and you can get a reputation from that.

So if you feel comfortable with it, go with it. It is not uncommon at all.

Yeah it sucks.

We started our very well and for the past 6 months - no go. Somtimes it would be great, but others it would start fine and then she would get dry and we would have to stop. Lube would not work either, it make her hurt more.

She is very stubborn and me telling her to go to the doctor just didn't work until i had to get mad at her to go. She was always uncomfortable about talking with her doctor as well.

It did put a serious strain on our relationship - even subconsiously.

The fact that she wouldn't do anything about it is not my problem. I told her we could skip sex for as long as we need, and i would still love her and be there. That didn't matter, she left anyway.

BTW - I did get tested for everything and came back clean. The doctor she did see gave her a perscription for a UTI, which it is not! Only in the last week of us being together did she make an appointment with an OBGYN, and i had to basically threaten her if she didn't do it, since it was for her own health.

Bottom line - get her to go to the doctor and not be afraid to talk about it.