MrLonely

My ex has a similar problem with dryness which led to pain and irritation then to frustration and her crying which led to saddness and she would get mad etc....

This was a big problem and caused us to move apart eventually bringing it to an end. (not saying the whole problem - but frustration enough for her to be crooked about it causing some tension)

We did go to the doctor alot about this, never got fully fixed.

Recently, after mt GF of 1.5 years broke up with me, i started to question this.

I am in love with her, and she was in love with me, thats what she says now. She was my best friend and i could confide anything to her - and she did to me.

Now i don't talk to her at all. It's been three weeks. Now I am beginning to question the friendship vs relationship.

My ex was the same way - although...she wouldn't let herself fully climax. She would go through the movements and "noises" but made me stop because it felt too good.

I could never figure that out.

Hmm shocked&dismayed or anyone else - can you explain this? (I know I shouldn't be trying to analize it but....)

She did volunteer the information that she "Still has all my pics up in her room"...

Does that mean she burned them already? Or what? She is saying lots to play with my head (and heart).

My ex and I went to Disneyworld this past summer, so I dream about that.

I also just dream about her - her scent, touch and just being held.

(my story - link removed )

It is very sad to wake up alone.

I'm guessing most things are said at breakup in the heat of the moment. I find it extreamly hard to believe that she can sit there and say she hasn't loved me for a while now EVEN THOUGH she still did things which showed love. Not large things, the small things that she did which made me fall in love with her.

We were at a busy point in out relationship at the time of the breakup. We hadn't seen each other much in the past few days (she said she didn't mind not talking to me....) and we were both crooked; i said i can't take the crooked-ness anymore and she got quite. A few hours later it was done.

Turns out now, a couple days before, she was telling another guy that she was going to break it off since she didn't feel the same anymore. She found herself with feelings for another, and didn't know about her feelings for me.....

I dont know what to make of her now blaming certain things in the realationship on me, which at the time, wasn't a big deal and certainly no one's fault.

Another thought...

When she broke up with me, as i was getting out of the car we hugged then she kissed me. Long kiss. I pulled back and she sat there and said "sorry, there is no feeling". So, i cried. We talked some more then i went to go again and she tried to kiss me again - this time i pulled away and wouldn't let her.

What gives?

This is to anyone out there who broke up with their significant other and then got back together after a period.

I'd love to know how long the NC period was (if you had one) and is the relationship better now? Did it end on bad terms where she/he said "never again" so "don't get your hopes up" and "we're done forever".

Yeah, I found it immature that she would tell me the only reason she is calling me is because her friend told her to.

I think I deserve better after a year and a half.

Despite all the bs...i still miss her.

Oh yeah - she has told me to F-OFF as well, (she set is as her msn name) because i was stupid and had my msn name set to "memories" that she would remember.

That girls are evil....

Seriously, to appreciate the time that we have, and that the stupid stuff really doesn't mean anything.

I made the mistake of fighting about stupid stuff and not focusing more on her.

Hey steve,

Hang in there dude. We're all in this together.

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Just so you all know, her comment was

"I miss him so much, tear"

First, she said "tear". Who says tear? How foolish. She said it in front of my brother, in passing, not directly at him just so he could hear.

This was said at the 2 week point. What is she trying to do? If she really didn't love me anymore - why the comments?

Thank you.

Same deal here. Her family & friends miss me, and have been telling me that she is making a big mistake and doesn't realize it. They say i deserve better after what happened, that i gave her everything and there is a better person out there who will appreciate it more then she ever will.

Only problem is, i love her dearly.

Our relationship wasn't always perfect (we broke up for 2 days in september) but we were in love. I'd love getting the phone calls from her friends telling me how she is always talking about us and blah blah blah....

I know i have to move on in life, but it's a hard thought knowing she might not be around for it.

I will do the NC thing, and hopfully when this new guy thing passes - she can realize what she lost.

I think the age difference is a big factor - i'm almost 23 and she just turned 20. We are at different places, i'm into settling down and she, partying (i was her first long relationship). It doesnt make it any easier.

All i can say is congrats I'm going through the same thing now (only been 3 weeks) and its good to know that there can be light at the end of the tunnel.

Yeah, those are my thoughts exactly.

It really hurts how she did the same things every day; tell me she misses me, loves me, etc. Then cold turkey she is gone. Reasoning; she doesn't feel the same way anymore and its not fair to me, she needs time for her self (read - another guy)...blah blah blah...

Then she calls 3 days after because "Her friend said she should call me and tell me what happened". What a crock!

And she hid the fact of the other guy from the friend as well....

So she needed a friend to tell her to call me after 1.5 years?? Gimme a break!

My GF of 1.5 years just broke up with me. I didn't see it coming. There is another guy in the picture from her school.

NC for almost 2 weeks.

So my question is, why is it that she is out bad mouthing me to mutual friends (i.e. snide comments and such) and cries about me to other friends while totally ignoring me now and pretending we didn't just spend 1.5 years together.

Even better, anyone wanna try and explain her actions?? Self justification?

I'd love to know why she is acting the way she is. Immature and all.

Hey,

I am going through the exact same thing right now. You can follow my story link removed .

She said the same things to me - she needed a break and there is this other guy she is interested and she hasn't felt the same about me for the past 2 months, although she acted totally the same.

Good luck man - i wish you the best. If you wanna talk i'm here.

Wow some great advice here!

I've got my own sob story....... link removed

Keep your chin up.

Thanks for you kind words.

I would love to jump into her head and see why she is acting the way she is? If she is as done as she says she is, why make stupid comments and get really mad when anyone mentions me?

Any ideas? It makes no sense.

Thanks - we too took a trip together this past summer. Man it was excellent.

This girl was everything to me, and the way she talked at me - it seemed she felt the same way.

The hardest thing is losing her in an instant. It's like she died, since now with the petty comments and no-contact, its like i lost her.

I would do anything to get her back - so i guess the best thing to do is to stop contact and wish

Thanks. I have only talked to her twice since; The first time she called (it was 3 days after) and said she was calling to tell me why, because her friend said she should. Then i called her and "but my heart on the table" but she only walked on it.

The petty comments now are really driving me. Also, its so confusing how she acted compleatly normal (calling, emailing, "Miss you, love you") right up until the last moment, then no contact.

Why do she do that??

Her friends have said "She doesnt realize the mistake she is making"...but i dont want false hope.

Just 3 weeks ago, my gf broke up with me. We were together for a year and a half. The reasons she gave me were different then what she has told her girlfriends. When she is out with her gf she cried about me. Basically she wants to be single it seems. There is another guy she is interested in, although she hid that fact from me and her close friends.

What kills me is that she acted so close until the last moment, saying she loves, misses me etc. Then she dropped the bomb. Now she is saying that she hasn't felt the same for the last 2 months and needs time to be free and live a little. Her longest relationship prior to me was 2 months. I dont talk to her at all now - she basically dropped me cold turkey, but acted the same till the end. Now she is making immature little comments about me around mutual friends, not somthing I'd expect from her.

I am 22 and she 20. I am being told by her friends that she doesnt realize the mistake she is making, and to move on - cause i will find somone better. But i dont care - i love her too much. I have thought about sending her flowers, but she said she didnt want them.

I've read i need to let her go if there will be any chance of getting her back...I have called her once to try to talk about it, and she was acting funny (as if she had a huge wall up against me) and said no. Her friends are also saying she is not herself anymore.

Any advice? I am very distraught.