harley061313

In the summer of 2017, I came to this forum for hope. I read this thread all the way through probably 10 times in search of anything that could help me believe that I would get my ex girlfriend back. I told myself that if that day ever came that I would come back and post to give others some hope and show that anything is possible. Now in July of 2018, 13 months later, I’m here to share my success story. My ex and I began dating in the summer of 2014 when were 16 years old. We fell deeply in love. We shared so many great experiences together and built a strong relationship around our Christian faith. We had our whole lives planned out to a t and new exactly what we wanted. After graduating high school she moved in with me and my parents while we both attended university. That’s when things started to go downhill. I became very complacent in the relationship. I never tried to make her happy anymore. I was downright mean and hateful a lot of the time. I would pick at her for weight (I know I was an ) and disregard any of her concerns with me and the relationship. She felt like not only that I didn’t love her, but that I hated her. She grew tired of my behavior but stuck with me through our first year of college. When the summer of 2017 rolled around I began to get annoyed with her lack of affection toward me. I would fake breakup with her to scare her into doing what I wanted. I had no idea the damage I was actually doing. In June of 2017 I “broke up” with her and she took it. She got all of her stuff and left. The pain I felt was indescribable. The person I treasured the most was gone and there wasn’t anything I could do. I literally wanted to die. I began seeing a therapist and taking Xanax to help with my anxiety. The pain never went away. My goal everyday was just to make it through. Once she left I did go no contact. I never once initiated any type of conversation with her. It was over. It took at least 6 months for me to get to a somewhat better place but I still struggled everyday. In februrary of 2018 I received a text from a random number. It was her. We chatted for a while and then I asked her to meet up so we could talk. She said she would like to and would let me know when she could. I never heard back. It took right back to the first day. The hurt was just the same. Fast forward to July 13 and I receive another text from her saying 3 words. “I’m so sorry”. I was on vacation at the time and it was the last thing I expected to hear. After a few messages, she said she wanted to try again and I agreed to meet up with her when I got back. I went over to her place and we talked for hours. She poured everything out to me. She wasn’t happy at all and never stopped loving me. The breakup was just as hard for her as it was me. She went through depression and a lot of reckless behavior to try to numb the pain but it didn’t work. She had wanted me back for a long time but was too embarrassed and ashamed to contact me. We discussed all of the problems we had and laid out all of our concerns. We both agreed that no one could make us happier than each other. We were meant to be together. We are so happy to have each other back now. We wish it didn’t take a year apart for us to get here but we’re so glad to have another opportunity. We are committed to each other and want to spend our lives together. I just want everyone to know that no matter what happens, you will get better. I promise. I didn’t think the pain would ever go away, but it did. Time will mend all broken hearts. I was hopeless. I never thought I would get her back. You just have to give each other time and space. No contact is the best thing to do for both of you to heal and move on and possibly reunite. I know it’s hard but you have to let them go if you want them back. Never give up hope. If your relationship was built in true love then anything can happen. I felt like we were always meant to be together. I never fully gave up hope that one day we would find each other again. Don’t let anyone out you down. Don’t wait around forever and out your life on hold, but don’t completely write off the possibility either. Once you truly move on, that’s usually when it happens. When you least expect it. I’m so thankful for all of the success stories that everyone has shared in this thread. It helped me get through the darkest of days. The days are no longer dark and I thank God for that.