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I feel like I have to bump this thread after its gotten me through some of the harder days of my break up. My ex girlfriend and I will be broken up for two months tomorrow. Went LC for the first 3 weeks, then NC for a month, and starting LC again as of a week ago. Still hurts a lot somedays but I'm moving on and am happy on my own now. Not to say I wouldn't be thrilled if she wanted to try working things out someday in the future. Anyway this isn't exactly a success story but it's close to one at the very least. When I was in 9th grade I had a crush on one of my female friends but being the socially inept child I was never worked up the courage to tell her how I felt. She began seeing one of my close friends and let me tell you it was like living out the song Jessie's Girl for a while. She was my neighbor and we often drove to parties and school events together. On of those trips I was stupid enough to admit my feelings to her, and although she said she had felt the same way at one point became angry that I did this well she was with someone else. We didn't talk much for the rest of high school but I stayed friends with her boyfriend the whole time. Over those 4 years she changed from a snarky yet likable girl to a full on that nearly the entire school despised. Shortly after graduation her boyfriend broke things off, crushing her and everyone else in our social circle's day since we no longer had to see her. A month into my freshman year of college she began texting me asking how I was doing at first but slowly becoming more flirtatious and direct with her intentions to win me over over time. By this time I had no interest in her due to how she had treated me for the past 4 years and because I was with my ex who brought me to this site. I still text that crush from high school occasionally when I need a distraction from my current heart break but doubt I'd ever want to be with her. So this isn't a true reconciliation story but someone I could have had someone I was very into once upon a time and was rejected by. I want to thank this board for the advice and hope its given me. Prior to the breakup I had really let myself go. Letting my grades drop, no longer working out, spending nearly all my free time on the internet and not pursuing new hobbies. My ex-girlfriend grew tired of this and didn't see me being able to keep up and move across the country to grad school like we had planned for the majority of our 2.5 years together and became interested in another man. We probably would have worked it out if her father hadn't passed away unexpectedly rocking her whole world. Now I'm working to improve myself everyday exercising, getting ahead on my studies, volunteering, and catching up on old hobbies and friends. I don't know if I'm doing it for me or her somedays but it doesn't matter as long as I'm a betterperson in the end. Maybe she'll see that someday and things will work out or maybe I'll find someone else. Who knows what the future holds. Also, I wanted to way in on this thread giving false hope and leading people to waste their lives waiting. This thread doesn't inspire false hope but a sense of realism that most sights like this sorely lack. If you go almost anywhere else on the internet for advice on breakups and heartbreak the only answers you'll get are "They're an ex for a reason" and "People don't change it'll never work out". Which roughly translates to " It didn't work out for me so there's no way it can work out for anyone else". By reading the hundreds upon hundreds of stories here you can see reconciliations happen just as often as breakups. It's important to accept the reality that you may never get back together with the person that you love or may even be better off without them depending on the relationship, but it's also important not to give up on any hope of getting them back just because they may have hurt you or someone told you it wouldn't work out. Sorry for the long post but writing is sort of therapeutic to me so this made my night a lot easier. Hope this thread is still around in a few years so I can share my own success story. Whether it's getting back with my ex or finding someone new.