Ames34

Just going to bump this because well.... I'm feeling pretty low tonight, and I've read the whole thing haha.. It just occurred to me that I have a story too. My grandfather is 84 years old, and 4 years ago he got back together with a woman he dated about 40 years ago. Apparently they split because they both had children, and merging the families together wasn't working (or so I'm told). He bumped into one of her daughters in the supermarket one day. He asked how her mother was, and it went from there. The family do question her intentions with him.... but either way it's still a nice story. He actually began tearing up when he was telling me how it all happened, because he still can't believe it

I have read up to page 171 of this thread so far.. I think it's really helping. A lot of the posts actually make me realise that even if things don't work out the way I hope them to, I will still be okay. Also that my wellbeing is important, and I need to rediscover myself again... I read this on another blog today so thought I'd post... *note this is not my story and I don't know these people*, but thought it was a nice perspective on a breakup that was caused by external circumstances. "In my case in this one particular relationship of a long term situation. I was able to remain friends because it had nothing to do with his cheating on me, it had everything to do with what he personally had to deal with day to day because of a serious injury that would affect him for the rest of his life. It was nobody's fault except the person who caused the injury. This individual needed a friend and support more than he needs a girlfriend. I can easily be that for him because of the delicate situation. So in this case yes it was possible to remain friends. Update: as I remained his friend, with time he grew to really trust me. He made a commitment and we married in Feb. 2017. He knew that my reasons weren't out of selfish ambition but because I truly cared. There are many reasons why you should remain friends and there are many reasons why you shouldn't be friends. I understood and followed the obvious." My situation is similar, though caused my depression/ family issues rather than an injury. So this helps me to feel that I am making the right moves so far.