JustBlazeBabe

If i were you i would talk to the guy first and figure out what the deal is between the 2 of you. And second i would tell her yourself what happened before she hears it from someone else. If you tell her at least she will have respect for you for telling her something that is so hard to say. If she finds out from someone else or her boyfriend, you guys are toast, there will be no 2nd chance for you. Now she will feel betrayed by you, and thats understandable. And realize that this could be the end of your friendship, you definatly crossed the line. But that doesnt mean you cant gain her friendship back. Be prepared to have to figth for her friendship and for her trust again. Over time i believe you guys will be able to work things out because it sounds like you guys have a very strong friendship. -----Good luck!!

hey, i live with my mom, dad, and i live with 3 brothers. im like the outcast of the family, they all hate me. And its complete torture living here, i duno how much longer i can take all the fighting and yelling. its cutting into my school grades. I hate coming home, and when im home i just stay in my room. im beginning to feel rreally depressed and i sleep all the time. im really beginning to hate my life. other than my b/f i have absolutly nothing to look forward too. i feel so useless. what should i do? i wanna feel like my old happy self again......

It is self-less vs self-fish.

I agree with that completely. And believe me i get as much out of this relationship as i give. I do anything and everything for him, and vise-versa. Previous to the 11 months i have been going out with him, i saw him for a good 6 months, and ive been really good friends with him for over 2 years. I know him inside and out. And he is the only person who see's me for me. Alot of other guys just wanted me as their accesory. But this guy is different, (i dont wanna sound like a loser) but we share this crazy connection, we finish eachothers sentences, and always say what the other person is thinking, and even little things like going to pick up the phone at the same time to call the other. And its not like we are a serious couple, you know the type that hermit it up together. i dont wanna sound conceided, but we are both pretty popular, both different crowds, so we are also out alot together with friends and stuff.

 

I just got back from a trip cuba where i was gone for a month with my cousin. And it was the longest month of my life. It should have been the time of my life but all i wanted was to be home to be with my boyfriend. I was constantly sick to my stomach, and layin around thinking about him. It was all this free time i had with mysself that got me thinking so deeply about the topic.

 

To be honest when i wrote in i dont think the question in my head was whether i am in love with him or not. I think it was just me being confussed about why i have such strong feelings at such a young age because i never planned to get serious with anyone until after college, but here i am with the guy i had always dreamed of, he just didnt come at the time i dreamt of. It's almost like i wish i hadn't met him till later in life, then it would have been perfect. Then i would have my last year of highschool goin out clubbin' with my friends and playin their lil hook up games. It's just i see other dieheart girlfriends who cry over their guys everyday because ohh god forbid he talks to another girl. And my best friend is soo wrapped up in her boyfriend she is blinded by the fact he is contantly cheating on her, even though we tell her.

Could it be that im just scared to turn out like some of these girls, or could it be that i picture myself with him for the rest of my life but know its very unlikely considering our age? is this why i am sort of denying the fact i am in love with him?

MY BAD

oh yah and since hes been stayin out of fighting he has made alot of new friends that he woulda never even considered liking before. His best friend now if a guy he beat up a couple years back...ironic huh. Just proves its better to be friendly than the enemy. bye

Dont be consumed with knowing if you really do love this guy, enjoy the time you spend together and have fun.

Thats the best advice you could have given me. thank you. your right i have spent way to much time debating whether im in love with the guy. so not like me. and im still so young, no use wastin this time trying to figure out if im in love with a guy when i still have my whole life ahead of me....i was stressin way to much over the word love....it was just cuz it came so sudden to me, and i usually have control over most things in my life, and this i felt like i didnt... but ya i just wanted you to know your advice really helped me alot! thanks so much! luv ya!

oh my god you remind me of my boyfriend 100%...it is messed! woah...he has lil guy tough guy syndrome, and has respect from everyone around because they know not to mess with him.......and as much as it seemed he liked the fighting and everything...he was just as scared as you and thought he needed anger management...and to be honest the only thing keeping him outa fights with other guys is me. so from my experience the only advice i could give you is find a cute lil girlfriend lol....and if not talk to your parents, they know you best out of anyone and can prolly offer you the best advice, or maybe take up a sport like hockey/rugby/or something where you could take your aggression out in a civilized way.....but theres nothing wrong with you, you just have a more aggressive personality.....

****thats hot.

peace

I'm 17 and ive been dated all through my teen years. Ive dated all kinds of guys, older guys, younger guys, colege guys, black guys, white guys, good guys, bad guys, you name it. But i would always end things quickly because of one reason or another. Thats until i met my boyfriend now of 10 months..well almost 11. He was a lil bad guy..always gettin into trouble. Im a good girl, But i loooooooved to party. But since we have been together, he hasn't gotten in any trouble with the cops, and he was actually the one begging me not to go out and party so much. We have both made eachother such better people, he motivates me for school, i motivate him for work. And we no longer waste our nights away gettin high or drinking...we spend them together and its so awesome! He is so amazing to me and treats me like gold. and i would do anything for him. Since he is the only guy i have been with this long and havn't shut down right away i have never been in love. And i dont know what it is like to be in love. I love him for shure. But am i IN LOVE? how do i know? or am i just another stupid teenage girl who thinks she is in love. The other thing is we havn't had sex yet, (which some people may have read at an early post..'sex scandal') ...is it possible for 2 people to fall in love without having sex? let me know, and is it to soon to tell him if i am in love with him...

Please help me

I was always the type of girl who never wanted to waste her time being tied down with a guy, i always wanted to live life in the fast lane. But i met him and fell for him hard. so i never really thought about all this love stuff, it basically just hit me outa the blue.

Please help me======got all these feelings---duno what they mean--duno what to do with them!!

please help me---and thank you so much!!!!!!!!

also...how do i know if he loves me.......he always tells me he likes me sooooo much and that he never felt like this before...and a couple weekends ago when we were drinking for our friends b-day he told me he liked me alot...and then whispered i think i love you....was that just the alcohol talking ? how do i know if he feels the same way back???

im the typical good girl who falls for the bad guy

why?

Because its so damn sexy to have an independent, tough man beside me who knows what he wants and does anything to get it. But when it comes to me he would do anything in the world to make me happy. I like the bad boy because when he goes out of his way to be romantic it means so much more, because you know its not part of his routine on how to treat a girl. It makes me feel more special. And its so cute to know that even though it seems he doesnt care about anything in the world, if he didnt have me he would be completely lost and helpless. I like the bad boy because i like the challenge of getting to know them, get them to let down their guard, because under every bad boy their is a good guy inside. And its so cute to watch the bad guy turn into the good guy just for me

your being selfish, its prolly just a fling, dont wreck what you have and what he has over a petty little school girl crush.

just kisses/or quick make outs until you have been seeing him for about 2 weeks->might seem like a long time but if he keeps callin ya then he likes ya....after 2 weeks giver with oral sex. And have sex with him when you feel he has proved he likes you for who you are and not for superficial reasons.

Peace

aww thanks for the advice, i didnt call him, didnt apologize and give in like i usually would have and guess what !! he showed up at ma door with flowers! he said sorry and that he would do anything for me in the world, and waiting till im ready for sex would be one of them. im so shocked that he actually came over and apologized! thank you so much guys!!!!!! im so happy now!! luv ya all!

If he is around our age he proabably doesnt even fully understand himself yet, let alone how to deal with feeling so low right now, hes lost and needs your help. help him, dont annoy him though, still take in to account he does need some alone time.

k god, first of all you guys went out for 7 months, meaning you guys were together for over half a year, meaning for over half a year you were most likely the most important person in his life. So he probably needs your most out of anyone. He loves you obviously, and its hard for anyone to deal with a break up, even if they were the one to end it. But anyways, so yeah, he may be depressed, and he may seem like hes pushing you away, but its a cry for help. Trust me on this, i went through a really bad time to and went to end things with my boyfriend, and i truly thought i meant it. But he stuck by me and didnt give up and in the end showed me that i needed his. Put yourslef out there, be there for him, even though you guys arent together, he needs your help. Show him you arent going anywhere, and that you are okay wtih being broken up, but you want to help him in anyway. Do something drastic too to show you mean it. Don't be annoyingly like calling him all the time and stuff though because he probably wants some space right now. But like randomly show up at his house, just to give him a hug and see how hes doing, txt him saying "if you need anything, let me be the first one you call". i duno you know the guy, think up cute little ways to show him you care. When someone is depressed the first thing they need is someone who cares about them, its the worst feeling to feel alone. So just be sure to show him you are there, and if things seem really bad and hes still missing school or whatever, definatly talk to him mom or soemone.

haha yeah bud, first of all get your sally self up and go over and talk to her. If you do i guarantee you will be surprised to learn all the different things you didnt know about her before. Also you say she is having family problems, go talk to her, let her know you have someone to talk to, and a shoulder to cry on. txt messages can't get deep, over msn it is easy for a person to deek out or hide some truth behind things they say. And if you love her, you obviously care about her well being right, so yeah obviously take her out to dinner. Im shure she would rather have a "friend" take her out to dinner than no one at all! All you gotta do to let her know its not a date is tell her, straight up, i wanna take you out to dinner for your birthday but just as friends. Trust me she will still be psyched she gets to spend her birthday with you.

Hey, I've been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now, and yeah obviously we have our fights now and then, but last night it was huge. We blew up at eachother and I stormed out and drove home. I havnt talked to him since. This is truly the biggest fight we have ever been in, and he said things I woulda never pictured him even thinking. He flipped on me because I havn't had sex with him yet. And i know alot of you are just going to say ah just have sex with him already, or dump the bastard. But i cant we have such a strong relationship, and i know we wont break up over this. And he is so perfect to me! but since we've never really been in a fight, and he's my first real boyfriend, i duno how to act, what to say, when to call him, basically i duno how to deal with being in a figth with him period? let me know.