Well here's a little update. Both of us went out to Canada last night by ourselves, sat down, drank together, and talked about it.
First time we went out to a bar in a while just by ourselves. We had a really great time actually.
Anyways, we have just scaled back our relationship. We're now officially just "dating." Her friends think she should stop seeing me romantically altogether while she's figuring this out but she want me in her life. But they aren't pushing her either. They respect her decision. We are still best friends also and tell each other everything. And I don't want that to change. We realize we still need each other in our lives. I'm glad about this because right now she is what is helping me get through school. And I'm also helping her get through nursing school so I want to be there for her also.
She doesn't know how long it'll take her to figure this out but she does say she is pretty certain that it'll take a couple of months or maybe even sooner. She did say though, that she is almost certain that we will end up together. Now I'm not hinging all my hopes on that...I know she can change her mind but it does make me feel better.
I know that she is not doing this because she met someone else or anything. We are pretty open about everything and she would tell me if that was the case. I also know she isn't going to go out and date every guy she meets. She's not that kind of girl. And I know she isn't going to go out and have sex with guys either. I mean it took us six months before we were ready to do so!
Basically I told her the hardest thing for me would be if she did decide to date another guy. I can't imagine anyone being close to her like we are. She told me that no one could ever be as close as we were and definitely not worry about having other guys "touch" her.
I mean I can't say I'm exactly happy about this...but I suppose this is the best it's going to be for a while. So I'm going to be patient with her and respect her feelings. She doesn't want to resent me later in life for holding her back and I agree with her.
I will change some things also though. I'll try not to hang out with her all the time. But I did like our date last night. I'm not a club kinda guy but really had a great time and I know she did. Maybe we got too much into a "routine" so doing these things would help. So I'm going to start taking her on dates just by ourselves and not with all our friends. And when she turns 21 in December, I'll take her to some nice places around here instead of going to Canada all the time Does anyone think weekly dates would be too much?
I'll keep on updating if anyone is interested.
And I would appreciate any tips/suggestions on things to do to show her I love her...without seeming pushy or anything.
All in all, right now I'm not feelin' too great about this...but I'm very optimistic.