tonydeterman

Thanks for the quick responses. However, I'm older. Perhaps really old from your perspective. I'm 41 with few deep relationship experiences. As I've progressed through life, I always knew I wasn't ready/interested in marriage. "So why bother getting deeply involved and breaking their heart" was my mantra. Now that I've come around to the idea, I seem to have discovered that I'm indeed a commitmentphobe. I've read a lot in the last month or so on the topic.--Actually I have yet to find any material that discribes how to fix or even improve my commitmentphobe affliction. But I have found information that delineates the behavior and life choices (or no choices) commitmentphobes make.--It really was a revelation to me. Strangely, I actually feel fortunate. Fortunate that I can now use that information to improve my life. Now it's all a matter of HOW. Anyone have any helpful book ideas.

I'm currently in a relationship with a lady I love, need, and want, yet I'm unable to ask her to marry me. The only feeling I can equate it to is like having an extreme case of stage fright. Being a commitmentphobe is a recent revelation for me. My life history, life style and current situation have all the earmarks. I've read several books within the last month and they all promote dumping the guy(commitmentphobe) and moving on. I find it hard to believe I can't be helped. There's got to be some kind of daily exercise or something/someone out there that specializes in this phenominon.