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Honeybal Was your ex unemployed too? How did you find out about the new girl? How long you guys were together? You said 3rd birthdays so I guess it was a 3 years relationship? Mine was the same when I was about to leave for work he would be like trying to convince me to take the day off. He would literally stay all day watching tv in my apt. Doing nothing productive and would even ask me to pick stuff on my way back home! Then I would come home in a messy apt. And start cooking for him! I was a good girl for him! Too good too stupid but because he would be so cuddly and lovey dovey with me, telling me how much he loves me and how appreciative he was of me doing all this for him that I was ok doing them...

Wow honeybal it's funny how our stories are a bit similar and our birthdays are a day apart from each other! Lol happy birthday! It must be an Aquarius thing wanting to fix the broken boy.! I did it actually and it's the main reason of us breaking up. When confortable in the relation he decided to quit every addictions and his recovery changed him and apparently being told that is not good to be in relationship while healing... I had no idea about those addictions so It wasn't my intention to fix him tho. I wonder what he is up to now.... feel so long since last time i saw him!

Day 11 I made it through my birthday. It was actually a good day yesterday maybe because I was happy to celebrate my birthday but I didn't think much about him . He didn't text or call either. Probably never registered the day in his head! As you guys I wonder if he thinks about me at all.. I have been reading another thread called " reverse psychology and the "rebound" and it does help me to stay strong about the NC . The hardest thing is I know he was kind of a looser no job, living with his mom, addiction problem but I still can't convince myself it was better for me not be with this person. I always think that the day he will change he will be the perfect boyfriend...

Day 8 Today has been a little easier than the past weekend. Week-ends are just horrible. I don't know anybody in my new neighborhood so it feels sooo lonely. I m happy that in 2 days I ll be entering into the 2 digits but at the same time I m really stressing because it's my birthday... i don't know if he will remember it and either way it will hurt. It will hurt if he does think about it and send me his wishes and it will hurt if he doesn't, That would mean he can't careless and i meant nothing to him. Wish me luck guys cos it's gonna be a tough day for me! My entire family is abroad and I m Entering the mid 30´s, single as F**** while all my friends are married and celebrating their new born! Thanks god i won't be able to get too drunk as it falls down in a week day.

You are very right if they felt we were the love of their lives they would make sure they would to be in it and not out of it! I did watch the crazy ex girlfriend I can relate too ! Specially that I moved near him ( but that was before the break up) It's funny cos I have one of my ex who is currently popping in and out at the moment . After the break up I have never tried to reach him and now he is back ! Unfortunately I have no longer feelings for him as I m in love with my recent ex. I hope it will be the case for him to, to reach me after a period of NC.... I hope it works

Yesterday was really hard, I m glad I made it through thanks to 2-3 glasses of wine ! Maybe its not over as you both agree for a 2 month break. It might be hard for him too that is why he keeps track on you via Social media. I wish it was the case for me but it feels like he does his best to keep me out of his life although I ve never harassed him with messages or anything ! He first started blocking me on IG then changed his name then now switched it to private. But he kept our picture in it. That makes no sense to me.

Why you never went to collect your stuff? Don't know much of your story apart from what you have stated that he is seeing someone else ? I ve really tried to keep up on following ppl story but as I said the app just keep refreshing on my phone ! I think we both need time cos even if I did offered him to pick up his stuff I m not ready to let go on them... and not ready to confront him either! I m just in a state of mind thinking whether he can't confront me for the same reasons or just Bc he can't be bother ! My ex was lazy! Unemployed leaving with his mom! Was a true boy before he met me.. as he said ... so not sure ... I guess he went back at his own self FB

Thanks Sourhearts sorry for the missing words in my previous threads but writing from my phone! I know! I feel you when you say if a man truly loves a woman he would go extra miles and make sure he will not let her go! He would come Knock at the door ask for another chance! It's only 7 days but what kills me it's on Xmas day him telling me he was missing me and wanted to have a talk which never happened ... I still have his clothes at home but one week since he has said he will come to collect them... and nothing . They have no idea what we are going through! They are just living their lives like we never existed! I ve tried to read every single post of this threads to see if at least there were any happy ending but the page keep refreshing! So frustrating lol! Hope the people I was reading their story since2009 are either over and happy or back with their love ones!

I wish mine would have attempt to reach me out and it must be hard for you not knowing what he wants. Don't know what's best them reaching and us not responding or vice and versa! The whole situation of breaking up sucks really. I m about entering my 7 days and it's Saturday night and I alone ! I feel terrible every pieces of me wants to text him but I can't ! It's really really hard! I saw he put his IG private, besides I was blocked I could still see from another account ( I know it's against the rules..) so I guess he knows I m checking on him and makes feel even worst

Day 5 Only day 5! I still miss him so much! It's not the NC the hardest is to know that he doesn't feel the need to reach me out. His day probably goes by without having a single thought about me. That is why it hurts so much! I passed by today in front of the place we went on our first date and had our first kiss. That was tough! I wonder if he will contact me eventually for his clothes ... i hope I will heal from this love

3 days NC [/b When I first joined the forum I had a massive anxiety attack that he might found out that I was writing about him in here. Then I realized that if I was here it was all about me about healing and feeling better about myself, who cares what he will think of me. In my previous experience, I have gone NC on ex - boyfriends and they all do come back soon or later, sometimes it took years, sometimes just a few months. Soon they are popping in and out of your life as if they want to check whether you still right there. But the NC does work. I recently posted a thread of my failure relationship; we did not have a proper “rip off the bandaid” it was more of slow move of him cutting me out of his life, it was hard because of all the mixed signals, “the I need to focus on me and my problems baby, I need you to be patient and supportive, to I won’t be able to be there as much as before, to the I can’t be in a serious relationship anymore, maybe you should start seeing other people”…. I went NC for 2 weeks then broke it off on xmas day and he wrote back he was missing me/us and offered to talk about it….It never happened. A week after we were supposed to finally meet and talk about it, I contacted him and he totally got nasty with me, telling me things like “I was bugging, we were nothing and wanted nothing with me”. I went NC again for over a week but 3 days ago the urge was too deep and intense and knowing he lives like 10 min away from me makes it even harder! So I texted him about collecting his stuff from my house, he replied he will come soon… Again it made me feel great for a few minutes to receive a response but it was just a stupid quick fix that made me sadder of picturing him coming to my house for final goodbye. I have tried to move on, went on couple of disastrous dates; write a diary but yet still missing him. Actually I have come to realize that I don’t want him to come to pick his stuff up, it would feel like he is gone forever and I also realize that in the event he does contact me, I wouldn’t respond! First it will empower me then I will only respond when I m sure I m fully in charge of my emotions again. It will be on my terms, when I am ready to face him and maybe having that talk without me bursting into tears and throwing myself at him. It’s going to be very challenging to not respond. But here I am with you all, trying to be stronger and trying to stick to that 30 NC rules. Thank you all for sharing your stories it really helps to read them.