I, like many others, stumbled across this thread and now feel less alone in what I'm going through.
My boyfriend and I had met online prior to a planned move he was making out to my city. From the get go we were amazed at how strong our connection was from online/calling/skyping, how much we had in common and how we ticked off each other's boxes in precisely what we were looking for. We decided early on that we wanted to commit ourselves to a relationship with one another and fell in love immediately.
Prior to his move over, his aunt passed away unexpectedly. He had the initial grief and seemed to be handling it ok, said that the death made him realise how important life is and didn't want to spend another day without me. Fast forward to a couple weeks later, he had moved out here and was staying with me until he found a place and our feelings for one another from our online relationship was very evident and real upon meeting in person. We talked about future plans, he told me he knew I was the one and that he already knew he wanted to marry me, we discussed moving in together in 6 mons time.
6 days after his move over, his grandmother passed away. He had a very close relationship with his grandmother and she had a key part in his upbringing. He was absolutely devastated and I was there for him as he grieved. He expressed that he appreciated that I was there for him, told me I was his best friend, told me that he feels like he could make it through anything with me. Over the next week, much family drama was brewing over the death and he was dreading having to go back across country to deal with it. He told me that he wished that I could come back out with him for the funeral, however we both agreed it wasn't the time in our relationship to do so. We were both teary the night before we had to goodbye so that he could head back home. Once landed, he alerted me that he had made it there safely and told me he loved me. The following day we chatted a little bit back and forth, however it was brief as we were both busy from work, then the communication stopped on his end.
I started to panic as our messages had never gone unresponded to one another. The following day, his mother messaged me on his phone that he had had an argument with her and took off to cottage. She had his phone, there was no phone at the cottage. I then went with the mindset that I knew the funeral was going to be in 3 days, he needed his time to grieve and have time to himself as arriving back home and the stresses of the family must have been an emotional shock to him.
The funeral came and went and I have yet to hear from him. Further inquiries sent to his phone proved the mother still had it and he wasn't talking to her. He had been under a family plan and she was cancelling it, telling him for him to go get his phone. He was planning on doing that once he got out here, however hadn't been here long enough to do that yet.
We're almost at 7 days since I've heard from and I was absolutely devastated that he hasn't reached out once yet. The only contact we've done with another is through the phone; we deleted our profiles long ago, don't have each others email address, not connected on social media, and skype is logged in through his phone. He's an intelligent man, computer savvy, surely he could have found a way to contact me at this point even though he's without a phone? I attempted to send a message request to him on facebook, however his account was deactivated the next day.
Upon reading this thread it's really helped me to understand that he's potentially not in the emotional state right now to be in a relationship as he's dealing with grief and stress. Our 2 mons of knowing one another perhaps isn't solid enough for him to get through this time and it's easier for him to distance himself than to include me in what he's going through. I have no way of contacting him even I wanted to, other than a futile attempt to a skype account I know he only accessed on his phone. It's disappointing and upsetting to have to go through this without any closure, but I sympathize with everything he must be going through.
