GreaterThings9

Hello, First of all I want to say its great to read all of these stories and it really does give me hope of maybe meeting up with my ex one day. I have been split up with my ex girlfriend for over two months now. Im 22 and she is 19 We met in college and we was together for one year. It was a great relationship and we hardly argued throughout it and also nobody cheated. Her previous relationship left her scarred as her ex boyfriend cheated on her and they were together for five years. During our relationship she had a lot of trust issues but as we grew closer she did admit she can't believe how much she trusts me. Also she was very depressed when I met her but I gave her confidence and even her parents said to her they have noticed how happy she has became since she has been with me. The last month of the relationship just became stagnant. She got a new job in which she worked unsociable hours, she passed her test and met some new work friends that she decided to spend a lot of time with. As communication became less, the more arguments started. It came to a point where we would hardly see each other so we both decided mutually it was best to call it a day and leave it for now as were at different points in our lives. We agreed to stay friends and be there for each other no matter what. A few weeks after breaking up I tried to fix things and it only pushed her further away. She told me she wants to be alone and the relationship is wrong timing for us. Obviously i reacted and panicked by sending all the cringe messages asking for her to meet me, she agreed to but said not anytime soon but she promises one day we will. I done no contact for two weeks and out of the blue I received a text of her asking 'how are you, hows uni going and is your timetable sorted yet? I responded but didn't ask any questions to keep the conversation flowing. This is when things started going downhill. After about a week i caved in and messaged her, she told me she wanted to message me but thought i wanted space so she didnt. I reassured her she can contact me any time. She then sent me a picture of her looking hot with new hair extensions which tbh made me feel like . Why would she send me that? Obviously she knows its going to hurt me knowing were not together. The weekend arrives and on snapchat I see she's out on a nightout and on her story theres loads of boys in there (she hardly ever posts to her story but soon as she's on a nightout its full of her acting silly). Obviously I was affected by seeing all this, how could she tell me she wants to be alone (she suffered from severe depression as a result from her previous relationship) but she's out partying with all her new work friends. I kept my cool this time and didn't respond. I didn't show her that this affected me and we remained in LC for a few weeks. I went away for a short trip to Amsterdam and I messaged her asking if she fancies going for a catch up when I'm back. She agreed but said she's busy with college and work and we will have to arrange a time when were both available. Its been two months now and we both have some of each others belongings. Anyways soon as I come back after her saying she's busy I see she's on another nightout on snapchat doing exactly the same. Clearly posting pictures on her snapchat of her with other boys knowing full well its going to affect me as we use to talk on snapchat every single day. This is were I made a mistake in reacting. I was so hurt this time so I made a pact to myself that I would delete her off it to stop torturing myself, the day after I just went to her house dropped her few things by her front door (nobody was home) and messaged her saying "i've left your stuff by your front door'. She replied with "Im guessing you don't want to meet any more then". Acting from my emotions I said that "there is no point in meeting now after its been over two months since the breakup. Were not together what is there to speak about.". Obviously she replied saying she is hurt that I think so little of her and she thinks we should meet. I was being ignorant and acting of impulse and told her that theres no point in meeting when she hasn't made an effort the past two months when I have been trying to rekindle things. Now shoes on the other foot I took control and acted like a . She said she wants to sort it and wonders why my attitude has changed so drastically. I messaged her explaining that all my respect has gone out of the window for her because of her posting loads of snapchat stories with other boys knowing that I would see them. If your really having a good night you don't go snap chatting the whole night, I felt like she was doing it to spite me and to get a reaction, and she got it. After the last text message I sent explaining my reasons for change in attitude is because of her not considering my feelings with all this nonsense on snapchat she didn't reply. After a day I started reflecting and I realised I acted like an idiot. I decided to message her telling her that I don't think little of her, the only reason i deleted her off snapchat and dropped her things off was to help me move on and it was nothing personal. I apologised and said that we all make mistakes and nobody is perfect and I hope one day in the future we can meet and clear the air. Again there was no reply. I own up to my mistakes and it still early doors as this conversation happened a few days ago. Im going to go no contact now because i don't want to pester her begging her for forgiveness. I told her I'm sorry and hope we can meet and thats all I can really do now. I just hope in the future when things have calmed down we can meet and clear the air to hopefully start over fresh because we were really good friends before the relationship. As i said the whole relationship was great but I hope my actions during the breakup hasn't pushed her away too much. I guess only time will tell so for now I'm going to focus on myself again and if things are meant to be then we will meet in the future... Any stories similar I would like to hear them! Has anybody acted like an idiot during the breakup and got their ex back?