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Awesome post, Raindrop22!! I don't have any get back together stories, however I CAN confirm that in my experience, ALL of my exs (aside from my most recent one which I posted about on here a few days ago) have come back. I suppose the reason why it never worked with any of my exs is because I previously had that 'an ex is an ex for a reason' mindset. However that mindset of mine is now changing, after my most recent ex dumped me. Anyways, My first boyfriend in high school I dated for 1 month only. About 3 or so weeks into our relationship, I decided to (stupidly) lose my V's to him (we lost it to eachother). We did it once. After that, he acted extremely distant and strange for about a week before dumping me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was hurt because I gave away my V's so easily, but the actual heartbreak wasn't that bad, and I felt that he used me and I decided I never wanted to even remember him. I deleted him from everything. Complete NC. It took a while, but 2 years later he facebook messaged me and asked me how I was doing and that he would like to see me sometime. I replied to him politely but never got back to him regarding that meet up. We haven't spoken since, and we still aren't friends on facebook but he is following my updates lol. Honestly, I still don't know why I even dated him. My second boyfriend I was with for 2 years but we only met twice because of the distance. The distance made me lose interest in him. He was also REALLY freakishly clingy which grossed me out. I ended things as nice as I could but he wouldn't let go. I was not that emotionally invested in the guy. I cried once after the breakup and moved on really quick. Cut of all contact. He was really against the breakup though, and wouldn't let me go. A week later, I went to a club with my friends and met a guy and we swapped numbers. We met on two more occasions and went to second base, but then I felt really bad because it is totally unlike me hook up with 'randoms'. My ex was still BLOWING up my phone. I told him I met a new guy but my ex thinks I CHEATED on him! What!? Then he went crazy and called me all these names and was really verbally abusive. So I blocked him on everything there is. He became stalkerish, and would make fake accounts and add me and pretend to be someone else. About 4 months later, I met my most recent ex (who I was with for 2.5 years) and even then my crazy ex-ex was still trying to contact me. EW. He kept trying to contact me for 2 years after our breakup before giving up (through email, but I'd read them and delete them without replying). It even got to a point where he threatened to upload my old nudes online etc if I didn't reply to him, and other instances where I said I would tell the police if he didn't leave me alone. Anyways, there were no happy endings there, but the point of the stories was that EXES DO COME BACK (most of the time).

Sorry, I forgot to mention in my first post that he also gave me the 'I love you, but not in love with you. It's just attachment' line. Ha

Hi everyone! This is my first post here I have been eyeing this thread as a non-member for a while now but only decided to join today. I am just over one month into the most painful breakup I've ever been through. He promised me all throughout our 2-year relationship marriage, kids, and a beautiful future together and told me never to worry about him leaving me, because he wouldn't. Everyone thought we were made for eachother and were definitely going to get married. We were long distance too. The thing he loved the most about me was my smile and my happy energy, but then I went into a slump (family issues) for a bit and I would always vent to him. It got to a point where every time we would skype or call each other, I was talking about my problems and crying. I sometimes even blamed him because he did not know how to comfort me through the hard times. This went on for about 2 weeks, and then he told me he's had enough of my being too emotional and arguing over trivial things and said we need time apart (he said at least a year - but TBH I think this is his nice way of running away for GOOD). He also said that he can't talk about marriage with me anymore because he has too much on his plate concerning graduating/future jobs/internships etc. He also told me he started to believe that me picking little fights with him and being negative is actually part of my personality that is beginning to show as we are getting to know each other more and more. I had made set plans to move to his country this year to work, but he told me don't bother moving there for him because he is not going to be there for me. I was absolutely crushed, because I had sacrificed so much to move there with him. Anyways, that same day he deactivated his facebook and deleted all our photos that were on any type of social network. By his actions, we are definitely over, but I think he was too scared to tell me 'I am breaking up with you' directly. I did the begging thing for a week, but it made him angrier and he eventually told me to BACK OFF in a pretty mean way So I did and we are now in complete NC since that happened over a month ago. I am not going to go into it anymore as it takes away from the purpose of this thread, however, I just want to tell you how much this thread has helped me heal and move on from this pain. Ofcourse, I have a long way to go, but I was in a MUCH worse place before I started reading the posts on this thread. It does not give me false hope but rather it makes me look forward to healing and gives me comfort knowing everything will eventually work out, whether it be with my ex or with someone better (although I am pretty certain my ex is never coming back). And anyone out there who is going through a massive heartbreak, know that there are many of us in the same boat. We will all get through this together! Sometimes it helps just to know that people are going through the same thing and understand how we feel.