Fitzland

Kind of a success story. Lived 1 year and a half with my ex gf she suddenly left me when I got confortable and did not give enough care. I was decimated brought her 12 rozes and got rejected. She then moved in with a coke dealer 2 weeks after the breakup ( She was a model and a party girl with very self destructive ways appart from the time she was with me, a housewife kind of person very devoted but in need of so much love). I decided to hope for the best for her as much as hate is easier, look at what I did wrong in that relationship and what she did wrong. I stopped contacting her and moved on with my life keeping in mind I'd still try to get her back in 30 days or when I felt ready. I met with friends, kept being positive, began jogging, met other girls casually and nursed myself back to my prime. 28 days later I felt really confident and I texted her just to know how things were going for her. She answered at the same second ! She wrote me that she wanted to write to me and if I did not answer did not know what she would have done. She asked me to meet with her, we talked she came back home with me for 3 days then left that drug dealer and came back. We stayed together for a year and a half more. Then I screwed up again: I ended up not trusting her and then she began lying and distancing herself and I had to end things and leave her. Of course I was saddened but mostly happy to have given things a second chance. Yes going back together is possible, but remember that won't fix yourself or that person magically (you can't fix her or him that's their job so work on yourself). I learned that you have to be confident in yourself and that you must keep trusting the other person unless you have proof of someting because even if the other person is truthful if she feels untrusted it will kill her love and once it's dead you live in an empty shell of a couple that will hurt both of you. After getting back rebuilding and keeping trust can be hard but you have to leave the breakup behind after having adressed the issues that caused it. So yes there is hope if you keep positive and work to being a better person, give space to the other person and move on from the pain of the breakup. But remember getting back together is the smallest step to what follows : building a healthy relationship. I regret nothing in getting back with her or loving a girl that had issues but be sure it is worth it going back together if you do it. As for me I still am in love with a difficult girl and am trying to have her love me... well being a nurturing person brings that I guess hahaha!