lje1994

Today would have been around 32 days of NC (stopped counting) however ex texted me about money owed and she would give it to a family member who's she's friends with. So just replied with a thank you. Amazing what NC can achieve I had a lot of anger built up as to how things ended etc. However, I now feel a lot more composed I guess. Wouldn't say I'm over her but I'm on the right tracks, thoughts about her during the day are no longer as mentally draining as they used to be. I've started focusing on friends and meeting new people through mutual friends which has been great. I've told my sister that I don't want to hear back from her as to how my ex is getting on or if she's seeing anyone etc as ignorance is bliss. the only advice that I can really give to those in a similar situation is to stop counting the days, I know this seems odd and kinda defeats one of the reasons for this form but I found that each day I was counting I felt that I was still focusing on her each day whereas it should be about us moving forward and removing that connection. Just be proud everyday that you've had the strength and self control not to let them control your life and emtions. Stay strong 😀

So today would have been 14 days NC today and we broke up 2 maybe 3 months ago. I heard through my step sister her cat had passed away (she adored her cat and meant the world to her) so I got her contact number back off my step sister just to send her a message letting her know that I'm sorry to hear about the cat etc and left it strictly just to that. She did respond just thanking me and I left it at that, but stupidly then went on a social media stalk nothing concerning on there but brought back those feelings! Had done well up to this point and avoided social media and was feeling better about things and starting to not be constantly thinking about what went wrong, back to day 1!

Great to see some progress, keep it up!

I've tried but I think the only way is by blocking the number through network provider but not overally sure if that effects the app. Sorry to hear what your going through snix, one day at a time. Maybe delete him off social media and give yourself space to think of yourself instead of what he's doing. Trust me I know it's easier said then done but it will get easier as the days pass

Day 4 and back to square one. So angry at myself. My ex sent me a picture of to show this discount I had given her (this was after breakup but still casually texting) had gone through. Initially I ignored it and deleted the message straight away so I wasn't tempted to text back as normally I'd try make some sort of conversation even though it was a pretty closed message she sent me. Sounds daft but was pretty proud that I'd revisited initially. However as it was on what's app she could she the message was read (dam you whatsapp) half hour later I got a text saying why are you ignoring me followed 5 minutes later by oi. I don't understand why she'd give two s if I was ignoring her or not and mor importantly I don't understand why I have to be such a wet lettuce and respond by saying I'm not ignoring you I'm just in a rubbish signal area. I don't get why I still care about her feelings when she sure as don't care about mine. Fresh start for next week!

I know the feeling everything seems like reminders! NC day 3. Been generally okay. Deleted her off Facebook and her number so I'm not tempted to cave as I know it's gnna do more harm then good. Weekends are the worst all friends all loved up so not about the majority of weekends. Alone with my thought's, cant wait to get to 60 days and hopefully my feelings will have changed from missing her to just being bored!

Yea I stupidly fell for it 2 weeks ago when she was planning our future together (even though we had broken up) yet then went cold. Step Sister is good at letting me know. I saw ex yesterday to exchange rest of stuff, we had tea together and had a laugh but I can't keep having illusions of getting back together no matter how much I want it that's why I guess I owe it to myself to give this a go

It's time to stop kidding myself and start this challenge. Basic background I was with my ex girlfriend for 3 and a bit years. She ended it just under 2 months ago but we have still occasionally texted and been giving me mixed messages. And meeting to exchange stuff. I think she knows I want her back but I guess my mind frame today is that I need to stop torturing myself with thoughts we'd get back together. Going to be a bit difficult as she is good friends with my step sister (we live together) and will pop round occasionally to see her. Long road ahead but I have to start at some point. Day 1