Hi, this is my first post and my girlfriend just broke up with me. She wrote a letter and I hope this helps you understand her view point. Any advice on what to do and how i should approach her to mend things is much appreciated!
heres the letter typed up:
Dear XX
I know letters are impersonal…but I want to write wat's on my mind and how I've been feeling about us lately…and then we can talk after if u want…but I have to put all these thoughts down on paper so I can say everything I want to say…
The last thing I want to do is hurt u in any way…and I know u probably don't believe me but I truly don't want to make u feel unhappy in anyway…but I know at this point no matter wat I say…I'm going to hurt u in some way…but I'd rather be honest with u because u deserve for me to be honest with u…
So for the past week I don't really know wat I've been feeling…I think rite now ur felings are still at a different point than mine are…I know I can be mean and I treat u wrong at times…I don't treat u like I do other people…and it's not fair…and I'm sorry…u don't do anything to deserve me snapping at u…thank you for all u do for me from buying oil for my car…listening to me…finding songs I like…I really do appreciate all u do for me even if I don't show it….
I appreciate how ur patient and always so supportive with my emotional craziness. I don't think anyone could put up with wat u put up with…but I know a relationship takes the full efforts from both people…and I kno rite now I'm not giving u my full effort…I thought that if I give it time, I would be able to shake this feeling of doubt about u…but I think that's selfish of me to do that…to hold onto u and make it seem like I'm leading u on…I don't want u to be angry at me..cuz I truly value having u in my life..but I don't think I can give u a 100% as a girlfriend should.. I feel like u put in sooo much more than me..and I don't want u to have to deal with that…ur a genuine and one of a kind guy…that's why I had to really take time to think and write to u instead of talking to u…I wonder if I'm gonna be letting go of a good thing….i don't know if I'm being clear enough for u…I think I just need my own time rite now because at this point, I feel I'm not being fair to u…I'd rather tell u this now before more time passes and feelings get stronger…I hope ur not angry at me and not want to talk to me..cuz that would hurt me…please try to understand wat I'm trying to say…and don't take it in as me deliberately trying to hurt u…I kno u've been hurt before and I don't want to be on the list of girls that has hurt u…
I wish I can change my feelings…and I wsih that I can feel as strong for u in that way as much as u do for me…but I can't help how I feel…at this point I want u to know exactly how I feel…after u read this we can talk….
thnx again for your time and help!
