VSM2002

I'm really not sure that this counts, but my best friend has had a rocky relationship for a little while. He and his girlfriend broke up with lots of screaming a few weeks ago (right in front of me, too. I witnessed the twenty-plus minute altercation -- not an awkward situation at all, haha) and the next afternoon they were back together. It seems they've done this a few times, and the advice I offered to him was that if they're willing to go through this a few times a year together, then best of luck to them. A friend of mine recently told me about a couple she knows (mid-60s or so, they're family friends) that is very happily married. They were divorced once, and remarried some years later. An older relative on my father's side who is in his 90s now was married three times. His current, and third wife, was also his first wife. I think there was a twenty-year gap in between. Having been reading this thread for a little while, I just have to say... yes, I am reading it to feel better and yes it makes me feel better. I'm not sitting and waiting to reconcile, but I sure hope the chance comes to both me and her one day. We both have plenty to work on, and I don't know what the future holds. We're young and have our lives ahead of us. And most importantly, we know these things happen. We also know that it's not right to sit and wait for them. But there is no formula. I've seen a lot of debate here over whether girls come back, guys come back, "the magic 30 day NC rule," etc. The best thing is to erase all of that from your mind. I'm sure when my relative married after his first divorce, the last thing either party expected was for him to remarry his first wife again one day. Sometimes reconciliation happens, and sometimes it doesn't. We who want it just need to not think about it -- I know, easier said than done. I know that just as well as anybody here. Good luck, and stay positive.