ConfusedManToo

Also I should point out that when we broke up she said "Now you are a friend maybe more another time" so she tried to friend zone me. This could just be her testing the friendship waters. I know she does that cause she is friends with her ex boyfriends from the past.

Hmm. Ex girlfriend texted me yesterday about a topic revolving a mutual friend of ours. I've never been keen on talking about people so the conversation went like this: Her: such and such is taking the breakup so hard Me: why what's happening Her: he's down and out Me: what's he saying Her: he's blowing my phone up Our mutual friend is her cousin so that's that. But she has initiated contact with me every time this month. 2 calls and 2 texts. I never replied after that. I'm just the dumpee so I'm over analyzing and am curious with those numbers of her reaching out is it a big deal or no?? The only time she ever said she missed me was back in June.

Well, at no point during this entire process have I stopped missing her. I've made a lot progress in moving on compared to how I felt weeks to a month postbreakup. I was a mess. She still finds her way into my thoughts but not as consistently. I've tried to understand her motive for seeking how I am but I'm sure it meant nothing other than maybe she just wanted to say hello. It definitely put her back in my mind though. We had a talk like we hadn't been NC basically. It was awkward on her end trying to gather words and keep the conversation going. At one point she said she would call me right back but needed to go see her brother for a second. I used that opportunity to cut the talk short and sent her a "it was nice hearing from you" text. Kept it short. All the advice I've read online says you must keep contact to a minimal if you want to heal. That's what I want.

I haven't talked to my ex the entire month of July except for once. She called me one day and I ignored it and then she called another day and I ignored it so she sent me a text saying she was just curious how I was doing. I f'd up and called her back and we talked for 20 minutes. Other than that I haven't reached out to her.