cavsguy

Here's a couple stories of reconciliation that I have to share. 1. My parents were dating for 2 years (and engaged) when my mom decided that my dad was going out to the bar too much and spending too much time with friends. He did not have a steady job and she started worrying heavily about spending the rest of her life with a man that could not support her financially or emotionally. They got into a giant fight and my dad ended up taking the engagement ring back from her. They were apart for 2 months and in that time my dad got a job and improved himself in many ways. They have now been married for 38 years. 2. 2 of my really good friends both go to university and had been dating since high school (around 2 years at the time). She broke up with him because of the good old fashioned "what if there is someone else out there for me that could treat me better?" syndrome. A week and a half later she heard about a fling he was having with this girl and called him up and told him it was over for good. She repeated this phrase a billion times to me and all my buddies. She was hurt obviously that someone could seemingly move on that fast and I don't blame her. Well, they broke up in May of 2014 and she ended up calling him at the end of August to try and reconcile the relationship. He was the one that denied this time. They went a month of NC after that with school going on and end of September, he called her and said he was miserable without her. They have been together since and very happy!! What I take away from all these stories on here is NOT false hope. Don't think just because other people got back together means you can too. It takes hard work on both sides and self-improvement. There is a reason the relationship ended in the first place. If your partner broke up with you and eventually wants to come back to you, they can NOT see you in that same spot that you were in when they left you. It's not attractive and it will remind them of all the bad things that happened in the first place. Find out why the relationship went sour and take some time apart to reflect on the important things. What you both want and what you both hope to achieve out of a relationship. Remember, it is all about growth. The minute you stop growing in a relationship is the minute you outgrew it. Grow yourself again and make yourself happy. The only way you can make someone else truly happy is if you love yourself and are comfortable with the person you are. Everybody on here has a huge heart and they want the best for their relationships. Give it time and healing and everything will work itself out. It may not seem like it now, but I promise, its a small world and miracles happen in mysterious ways!