I have been in an up and down long distance relationship, where she broke up with me twice.
First time she broke up with me, at the end of a couple of days together, she said wanted to remain friends. I told her we couldn't be friends, she accepted. But she kept texting the days after, I ignored most or replied in a few words. As I didnt want to keep ignoring, I sent a video to explain again about the no friendship, adding I wanted only romance. I said I was ok with us being apart if she didnt want the same.
She contacted me crying not long after, we decided to give it another go, talked for 2 weeks, chatting and skyping, getting lots of validation from her feelings towards me. Then we spent 4 days together (I already had another plane ticket to visit her from before we broke up, so she invited me over). I avoided talking about the relationship during that time. Things were conversationally a bit cold though, she was definitely more distant as compared to before I arrived, however physically there was passion mostly. When I left she told me again she could not be with me any more. We said goodbye and I told her from my part nothing changed, I just want romance, no friendship. So I went into no contact.
She did not text for 4 days, but today, on day 5 of NC, I woke up and found chat messages (thanking me for a gift i bought her 4 weeks prior (when we were still together but finally arrived) and asking me how i was doing) and 2 missed phone calls. I ignored the chat messages.
As she never called on my mobile (they are international calls so we always talked over skype), I found that aspect weird, so I called her back like 2 hours later. When she picked up the phone she said with a nervous voice it was a bad time, that she had visitors, and she had called me for no real reason, adding she would call me back later. I just said ok, sounds great, talk later... all with a neutral voice. She didn't call back. I feel ty for having returned the call. It broke my NC, and made me feel worse than i was doing.
