I have been going out with a wonderful girl for the past 7 months. Her dad, a 'used to be' drug addict and alcoholic was finished with drugs, and only drank when he was stressed she said. He had been addicted on valium when she was in grade school (she is now a sr. in high school), and his wife made him either go cold turkey or she and the kids would leave. Everything seemed to work out. He had stopped, and they stayed together without any more problems. Until last month. Coming home from a business deal late on a weeknight, he crashed and completely totaled his truck. The only reason he is still alive is because he wore his seat belt. He was on valium, cocaine, percacet, and an opiate (more than likely heroin). His wife, a victim of the same type of father her children now have, stayed with him, and in fact bought him a new truck the next day. My girlfriend was joking around about it 2 days later. Apparently something of this sort happens every 2-3 years. For some reason, he was not charged with a dui even though the police had to take him to the hospital. He is now going to drug rehab 6 days a week and says he enjoys it and is making progress. My girlfriend has not been the same since that day. She seems tense and angry. Her mother is the same way. I know the entire family needs counseling but they believe they are fine. If I were to mention it, they would more than likely get angry and be offended. I asked my g/f a while later I asked her to promise me if I turned out to be like her father or grandfather to leave me and she did, but was very offended and very furious. This is the first time I have been able to talk about anything that happened. I was told to keep quiet and not tell anyone because it was 'embarrassing'. I have not told a soul, and if my parents had found out, I would never talk or see my girlfriend again. My parents are right, I should not be going out with the daughter of a drug addicted father but I love her and I don't think I could leave her. She's a great girl. Great student, involved with sports and works to save children. She has never drank or done drugs, and she would leave me if I did do drugs. She's got an amazing head on her shoulders, but I believe it has been scarred by her father. How can I help her?
