Dolly

My friend and I discussed this the other night over a drink. I don't believe there's enough in it to say either way. In my experience, all of my ex boyfriends have come back to me. It's never been enough, hence it never worked out. But I've never gone back to an ex that I broke up with, though they've tried to get back themselves. I tend to analyse things, to make sure, and I never do anything on a whim. I've heard other girls say the same thing, and my girlfriend who I was with agreed. But does it mean that guys don't do this? I don't know. My most recent ex who I really want to get back together with seemed very confused when he broke up with me. It didn't seem like it was what he wanted at all. It's not to say that it's typical male behaviour though. I think if anything, girls are very open with their friends. Guys perhaps less so. They get over broken hearts by having a laugh with their mates. Us girls get over our broken hearts by crying on our friends' shoulders. I wonder if either way is more beneficial. I don't know, I have lots of ideas about it. But it's just that. Thoughts and ideas.

My cousin was messed about by a girl for years. She didn't know what she wanted, she cheated, she was back and forth all the time. So he eventually stepped back. Well she sorted herself out and went back to him. She said she loved him, she was sorry, and that she wanted to be with him. She meant it. They've been married for almost 5 years now, with one child and another on the way. They are very very happy.

I have got back together with a few of my ex boyfriends. Not enough had changed though, hence nothing worked out in the end. I am crazy in love with my current ex though. We broke up 7 weeks ago immediately following a 4 week break. My heart is shattered. I hope we get a real reconciliation. I need the real deal with this guy. Anyway, here's what happened with a previous reconciliation that went to pot again. I was friends with a guy for almost 25 years (we grew up together) when we got together. We had a good friendship, so it seemed like we had a good foundation for a relationship. I'd come out of a serious 6 year relationship, whilst his most serious and longest relationship lasted 3 months. It was great in the beginning. But our first argument was a nightmare. He really didn't hold back. He was nasty, said some really disgusting things to me, and like an absolute wally I just stood there and took it. He then said I wasn't girlfriend material, and he would never want me ever again. A short while later he wanted to be friends. I still liked him more than that, but I completely accepted that we should be nothing more. I didn't want to be walked all over. But after a quick dinner one night, he sent me a message that said he missed me. So we got back together. It was actually a mistake, since nothing had changed. We had an argument, and he was rotten again. We called it quits. And guess what? He came back AGAIN. This time I kept my guard up. I liked him, but remained cautious. I never took him back, but said we could see what happened slowly. I knew that not enough had changed, and I didn't fancy a toxic relationship. He was actually very sweet for a while. He seemed to be putting some effort in. He'd send flirty messages and he seemed genuine. Then a mutual friend told me he thought he was in a relationship. So I asked him, and it was true. He had been with another girl for about 3 months. I asked him why he hadn't told me, and he had nothing to say. He asked if I was okay, I said "yes, I'm fine" and I never spoke to him again. I surprised myself by getting over it really quickly. Apparently they're still going strong! A mutual friend told me they seem to be having a good few ups and downs but for the most part, they seem happy. Which is awesome. I am thrilled for him. I hope they go the whole hog.