shootingstar22

Hi everyone, I only registered on here to share my story, which I hope will help you. Trying to keep a long story short...my other half broke up with me last May. It felt out of the blue although we had been having a few arguments. We had been together 18 months and were living together. It was a serious relationship, but he clearly talked himself into thinking we had 'problems'. I'm old and wise enough to know that these were just everyday relationship 'blips'. To say I was absolutely destroyed would be an understatement. I just couldn't understand him or the situation....I just couldn't make sense of it. Come August when I found out he was seeing a girl (significantly younger than him) who had befriended me earlier in the year and of course now I know why! It's my understanding they got together only a week or 2 after we split, but who knows? I'm kinda sceptical. She was definitely pursuing him whilst we were together, hence the arguments. ANYWAY...more fool them, I thought. Amongst my utter, utter heartbreak, I completed my teacher training course, went on holiday with my mum, got a new teaching job and kept going. I knew he would, one day, regret his actions and come running back...but would I want him? So of course, end of September he wanted to see me to 'give me some post'. I was completely dignified and played a very convincing 'I'm totally fine and I've moved on'. October, and he wanted to meet up. I agreed, knowing full-well what he wanted (to get back together). We got back together agreeing that we would see how things went. It's been really, REALLY testing at times, especially dealing with the whole 'other girl' situation. We had some relationship counselling and it's been totally worth it. 8 months on and it's better than ever...more communication, understanding and trust. I knew we would be together, which was why it was so difficult to understand what was going on in his head. We're getting married in 2 weeks and moving to the Middle East to start new jobs...so it all worked out for the best! Did the break do us a favour? I don't know. What I do know is that it definitely wasn't worth the indescribable pain I went through. My advice to you is this.... I'm not saying they will always come running back, but it happens if it's meant to be. Try your very best to keep moving forward and doing the things you enjoy (even if you're not!) Nobody wants to come running back to a jibbering, unhappy mess! Don't pester them...phone calls, texts...it's only asking for more hurt when you don't get the answer you want. If they want you back, they'll tell you. This seems all so easy for me to say now that things are back on track, but it's true. I spent HOURS reading every single post on this forum last year and I vowed I'd share my story in the hope that it will help others keep faith. Keep strong and sorry for the essay!