Kai2014

Thanky NEWDAY101 and reflective82: My friend broke up with her bf as she lost attraction and feelings-- she didn't feel he had his life together and it wasn't attractive to her../QUOTE] Same thing happened to me after nearly 8 years this summer and my gf went into a relationship 24hours later Well us being over 35 and till now everything used to be great but yes it is a good buffer of time now to really work on myself and get life going on in a better way.I too do believe things can't just end on the spot when both still have some deep feeling and I certainly have no peace with this abruptness (having been without a single day of fights or quarrels at all right up until the end). So thanks for both your posts! At last my sunday looks better and I shall start an upward spiral

Don't let the haters get you down! If you are meant to be together it will happen, and no one can take away your hope!!! Once again a big thank you and hugs to all on this thread! Been spiralling a bit downwards thanks to the autumn weather here in the FRG but this thread motivates me and makes me smile time and again! Yes one has to REALLY let go and detach; but when the heart stays filled with unconditional love chances are good some day if both partners are courageous enough.I have seen couples separate for between 2 months to over a year and come back together and it worked out great as they were willing to leave their own ego and understand and care for the partner first and foremost. And yes some days are extremely difficult when there is fear and uncertainty on our voyage.But that truly means courage in finding ourselves. Relationships are not the source, but the destination of our happiness... Wishing you all energy to hold through!

Thread started very well and uplifting.Yes one has to be careful not to interpret facts as one would like life to be but openly see the present and just work on oneself and hope for a good new foundation (if with someone one really loved why not, has worked some times). I have a nice story to tell: father's friend happily married with 3 kids now end 60s.Found out when he was young his gf ran out of him for someone more adventurous as she didn't want to see life already ending aged 25.He was devastated but just meditated a lot and worked on improving himself with no thought of her.Over a year later she returned and they tried.Now 40 years very happily together. Guess I'm alleviating my own pain by telling this story but why not hope for the best for both...day 9 NC...