phil17

Hi Everyone. I wanted to give everyone an update on my story because i own this community a bunch of gratitude for helping me out through dark times in my relationship. If you read my old posts, my situation happened years ago and today I've been married happily for a year. I met someone new online a couple years ago who is amazing and wonderful. My ex who hasn't talked to me for 3+ years reached out recently wanting to catch up. We had a quick lunch (my wife knows my story and approved of this) and basically told me all the troubles she's had with her current BF and how she isn't sure if she wants to be with him etc. I wished her the best and told her about my update and we parted ways. for those of you going through what I have here are some important pointers that helped me: 1) never say bad things about your ex. things happen for a reason and your life will work out. If we had a good relationship with them, you'll still want the best for them 2) try to enjoy every chapter of your life. After the initial sadness subsided (give yourself time to grief), I focused on my career, spending time with my parents, picked up guitar and taught kids sunday school at church. This allowed me to "improve" myself for the next "relationship" chapter whenever it happens 3) know and continue to believe you are worth it Life is magical and great if we embrace the "good" and the "bad". it builds us and gives us the character we need to be better people, partners and parents one day. I wish all of you the best and thank those who had helped me in the past. I am confident you'll all share similar endings in the future :)

Let us know how it works out Imconfused. I follow this thread everyday hoping for a little miracle for me too. Please do take everything slowly and naturally. I sincerely wish you the very best from my heart and if he has changed, i'm sure you guys are going to be happily ever after!

Hope things work out for you Imconfused. don't want to derail this thread but my fiancée left me 3 weeks ago after dating for 6 years too so we're in a similar situation. she say she doesn't feel she loves me enough to commit >_