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Would you mind if I ask what the reason was for breaking up both times?

Just thought I'd update everyone on my situation as promised. It's been 5 months since the break up, 2 months ago my ex came to see me at my house. He admitted that he left me to be with someone else but realized that "the grass isn't greener" (his words) and wanted me back. We've been taking things very slow for the past 2 months. I still hold a lot of hurt and anger, it will be a long, hard road to regain the trust. My fear is that I may never fully trust him again and in the back of my mind I will always be waiting for the day that he leaves me for someone new again. Reconciliation is a lot harder than I expected it to be, but I still love him so I am willing to give him another chance.

Thanks for your response. He will definitely be working for it, I won't be letting my guard down this time.

Following on from this, last night I received an email from my ex after 3 weeks of NC (2 months since the break up). He says he has realized what he has done and wants us to get back together. I agreed to meet with him in a few weeks to talk. This is what I've dreamed of happening since the break up, but, I think my heart is finally catching up with my head. Resentment towards his selfishness has started to kick in and I've come to the realization that there are plenty of men out there who would treat me better than he has. Deep down I still love him, but I'm not sure that I would want him back anymore after everything that's happened. I have learnt so much in our time apart and would never allow myself to be taken for granted in a relationship again. I guess I will just take it as it comes, meet with him, and see where things go. Does anyone have any advice for me?

I have been reading through this entire thread for the past week and a half and it really does help. Just adding that bit of positivity into my day helps me to move on and enjoy my life again after my fiancé of 6 years broke up with me 6 weeks ago (bad case of GIGS, we got together very young). I know he still has feelings for me, which makes this break up harder for me to deal with, and I hope that one day he wakes up realizes that single life isn't all it's cracked up to be, but I understand his need to do this and I had to let him go. In the meantime I have to continue living my life. I miss hearing his laugh and seeing his amazing smile. I've enjoyed reading these stories so much, hopefully one day I'll have my own story to post here for everyone's enjoyment. But back on topic, this story isn't a successful reconciliation, but it shows that the ex tried for it: My sister's fiancé dated a girl for a few years (his first love) in his late teens/very early 20's. They parted ways when he decided to move to Australia. About 6 or so years later with NC, the girl decided to come to Australia for a visit. She found a way to contact him and asked to spend a day together. During this time together, she expressed that she still loves him. Unfortunately for her, by this time, he had already been dating my sister for the past 4 years.