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Hey, I talk to a few girls in class etc and they seem really friendly, but how do I tell if they actually like me (in 'that' way) or if they are just being nice?

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I think you should ask in person, its much better and probably more chance she will say yes.

Just try and remember FORE

Family

Occupation

Recreation

Education

You can talk to pretty much anybody about these topics.

Also, try not to ask Yes/No questions, e.g

Instead of:

Do you live alone?

Who else do you live with?

I think lonelynshy's point isn't really to do with nice guys finishing last, but why do girls always go for the 'bad' guys? I see it in school, all the cool guys I know are single (except one or two) yet all the complete *beep* have girlfriends! It makes no sense the girls always complain about them, they cheat on them, but yet they keep going back. Why do girls do this, is it because these are the only guys who hit on them? Are the so called 'nice' guys really just the shy guys? I know myself im not really that nice a guy, but when im nervous I just go along with what others say, I guess I take the easy way out. 8-[

Hey, Iv been going through a weird spell at the moment where one day my confidence can be really high and I can go along the street singing and the next it is really low and I walk with my head down. Whats the best way to keep your confidence when you get it high?

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Do you girls like the hairstyle that the guy from scrubs has? (thats kinda like mine)

I would just be honest and tell her, if she dosn't like you in the same way im sure you can still be friends, its better than keeping your feelings locked away.

imagine that tomorrow is your last day of school

Thats a great idea

I might give that one a go.

You should stop flirting with her and tell your friend that she kissed you. It will be worse loosing your friend rather than this girl, and he deserves to know that she isn't trustworthy.

Just tell her how you feel, whats the worst that could happen really, even if she dosn't like you in that way im sure you would still be friends.

Hey, thanks for the advice, yeah the idea was kinda dumb, lol

Shes not in any of my classes this year, and iv only ever talked to her twice and that was in group situations so i wasn't directly talking to her. I don't wanna wait till next year cause I doubt she will be in any of my classes and by that time she might of met another guy or something. Im not really good at just striking up conversation its better if theres something to talk about, any ideas?

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Okay, the exams are coming to an end now and we go back to school for a month and then its summer break, I really wanna talk to this girl before summer but iv not really had a good chance when shes been alone, and when I do get a small chance (just to say "hi" or something) I get nervous and can't. Do you think bumping into her by 'accident' would work? I just need to break the ice. Any tips are welcome.

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yeah, sounds like she likes you, you didn't even need to ask for her number

I think he means he can't ask out for a date. I can't really help him, so I hope you can avman.

He? Check again...lol

Thanks for the advice Spirit's Away

A few times when I have responded people have said I was over reacting, what do I do then?

Is it always better to respond?

And how should I respond?? Insulting them or just deflecting their insult off of me?

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I would take her on a date, you will get to know her much better, rather than just chatting to her in school.

lol, I actually tried that but it never really worked out and I just got mad and it lowered my self confidence. I guess it will be best for me just to ignore it.

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Wow, fast replys today Thanks

Yeah, most of the time I do ignore these things 8)

But one time, one of my friends just kept saying stuff to me and pissing me off even when I asked him to stop, its kinda anoying

Thanks for the quick reply

What do you think I should do if someone uses a put-down or something on me? e.g slagging me off etc (not that it happens often, im just not very good at them situations)

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I hardly think you love her at 13, I was still playing with action men when I was 13, lol

Hey, dose respect come with confidence or are they two different things?

Just wondering because sometimes I feel that people don't respect me as much as they should. Anyone else feel like that, is it normal?

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You should do it, even if it dosn't work out at least it will be some experiance for you, sounds like your just looking for ressons not to do it now, force yourself to do it!

The first step to gaining confidence is realizing your low on it, I used to be a shy guy and stuff until I actually realized what I was doing wrong, now im not so shy and I feel much better, even though I don't have a gf. The next time your in a shop or something just think, what would make this person feel better, compliment them, nice hair etc. Overtime you will learn to do this without even thinking, its a gradual process.

Have Fun

Hey, just wondered how long dose it take you guys to ask out a girl from the first time you speak?

Yeah Santas right, if you dont go for it you'll regret it for sure.