kitty pity

Hi there, I was reading your post and i understand what you're going through, but i have also been in the same situation on the other side. This might hurt a little but what you need to do is leave her alone. for as long as you can physically cope with, I hate to say it but i dont htink she's ever going to be the way she was. when you're a 16 year old girl, a 19 year old bloke seems like the best thing in the world that could ever happen to you and you give up all your free time to be with them and you think that you are in love (and you probably are) and that's fine. But as she gets older she starts to see the fun in hanging out with her friends and getting a balance. It's unfortunate that your girl can't see that it is the balance she needs. What it boils down to is that she doesnt "NEED" you in quite the same way that she did and because she knows you are so infatuated with her she will never reciprocate like she used to. She doesn;t feel threatened by the possibility of losing you. Trust me, i always get this at some point in a relationship and I know that if you keep nagging her you'll push her further and further away. you need to regain the upper hand, the control if you get what i mean. go out with your mates more, make an effort to get more female attention for a start to boost your self confidence and then you will feel that you don't need her in the same way and then she'll start missing you. I know it is so hard when those you love act dfferently but you just have to try to keep your head ok? Best of luck with all this. I really hope it works out for you. =)