Day 4.
It’s been just over a month since our break-up. I’ve had to restart NC many times this month but this one is for real….we exchanged some texts on the weekend and it just illustrated further that he is not the person I thought he was.
Yesterday was the first day I felt at peace, all day. Truly. The anxiety in my chest has passed. I know it's over. It’s a relief to let go and not hold on to him or to hope. To truly say after all the pain he caused me he will not get another chance with me and believe it is very empowering. I spent the first month after the break-up praying he would come back.
The fact he is also seeing someone new is just ‘fuel for the fire’ as it seems so absurd that it’s almost comical. To go from talking about having babies with me to dating someone new within weeks shows his emotional immaturity to me.
I am done wasting my time on him. I spent the past year and a half loving him unconditionally, taking care of him, thinking about him and now it's time to take care of me and find someone who will love me unconditionally. He left me last January to explore reconciling with his ex-wife and I took him back then, forgave him and loved him more than ever. When things got tough in our relationship, he didn’t love me more he walked away.
Some things that have helped me get to where I am today….which is on the mend, feeling a little less pain each day and hopeful for the future.
Maybe they will help you…
Keeping busy (NOT looking at old texts, photos, and just removing him from my mind when he passes through)
My friends (you’ll be shocked at who’s had their heartbroken beyond comprehension and is there for you even if you haven’t seen them in years)
Running (natural endorphins)
Volunteering in the roughest part of town (puts things in perspective)
Knowing and truly believing it will be better with someone else. (this took a while)
Letting go: 'Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.' Eckhart Tolle
‘Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge’ -Tolle
My personal anthem these days. Best thing I never had, Beyoncé.
Also enjoying, forever by HAIM.