What are some tips for dating after a long-term relationship has ended?

Fading fast are the days when an end to a long-term relationship meant being broken-hearted and alone for eternity, as these days dating for mature singles can be an exciting exploration of new connections and untapped potential. Nevertheless, it can also be difficult and daunting, especially for those who haven’t dated for a while. Here are some tips to help those newly immersed in the dating pool gently begin their journey:

1. Acceptance: Accept that relationships will change and grow over time, just like anything else. It is natural and normal that your relationship evolve and even come to an end. Rather than being bitter or hurt, celebrate the elements of your previous relationship which brought joy and growth into your life.

2. Self-reflection: Mourn the loss of your relationship and use this time to look inwardly into yourself and what you want from your future. Revisit your values, goals and expectations, spend some time alone and explore new activities.

3. Set Boundaries: Understand what you need, want and don’t want in order to be healthy and happy in your new relationships and make sure your partners respect these boundaries.

4. Don't Rush: Although it can be tempting to jump right back into dating after a long-term relationship has ended, take time to just enjoy being single and explore the world around you: rediscover friends and family, nurture yourself, start new hobbies or interests - anything that recharges you.

5. Move at your own Pace: Don’t compare your current relationships to ones you had in the past and move at your own, comfortable pace when it comes to all things dating: going on dates, becoming intimate, forming relationships etc.

6. Kindness: When pushing out of your comfort zone, it is helpful to keep reminded that kindness and self-love are paramount in dating after a long term relationship. Speak kindly to yourself and hold your standards equally for yourself as for potential partners.

7. Get Support: Talk to good friends, family and therapists if you feel scared or lonely to help gain perspective and understanding.

8. Get Out There: It is sometimes useful to find activities or events which are naturally social so you can meet new people in a relaxed and low-pressure environment.

When dating after a long-term relationship has ended, it is important to remember that the path of dating is full of new possibilities and opportunities. Put your best foot forward, remain compassionate and kind to yourself and others, and continue to trust that you’ll find someone wonderful to share your life with.