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that made me laugh- 13,452 replies
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it stinks man, but there's always an upside. a fresh start can be kind of empowering. next time something bad happens you're going to have this experience to rely on and you'll be stronger. whenever the karma train comes 'round and knocks her on her butt, she'll be a lot less prepared, by the sounds of it. keep at it man, i've been following your story, it's really tough, but it sounds like you've been doing great- 13,452 replies
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hey eric, are there things you like about your new place? are you able to check out the neighborhood and see if it'll take your mind off of things?- 13,452 replies
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i got an email today from my exgf, but it was an invitation to view a photo album of her trip. i think it was the kind that gets sent out to multiple people at once. i found it weird that i'd be on it, she's meticulous and there's very little chance it was accidental. turns out she also emailed my parents the album, but with a note specifically for them, saying she had been thinking of them and of me. she said she hasn't really spoken to me much since we broke up but that i'm still in her thoughts and prayers. i don't know how to interpret that, along the lines of whether or not she's just trying to be on good terms/friends, or if she'd be open to reconciliation. i didn't look at the photos cliff's notes version of our sitaution was i broke up with her in october, and reached out later wanting to meet up, hopign to bring up/test the waters for reconciliation. she said she wasn't ready to see me, and we had nc until about 2 weeks ago when she said she was ready enough to meet up. i said i needed a bit more time, and this AM the email came. i had been seriously considering saying i'm ready to meet up, i think i'll email her this afternoon to say that. kinda nervous over here!- 13,452 replies
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quit beating yourself up, it's a difficult thing you're going through. you got us for support, small comfort that may be..- 13,452 replies
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Crows, are you trying to maintain NC with her? if so, it's not like you are her personal tech support, its been multiple times you've spoken with her because of computer issues- 13,452 replies
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day 12 i guess. i'm thinking at 14 (2 weeks), i'lll probably reach out/respond. she said she was ready to meet up 12 days ago, i said i needed a bit more time, maybe in a few days i'll feel up to it- 13,452 replies
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that's a pretty sweet font you have there- 13,452 replies
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don't give up! especially if being in touch is doing you no good i'm on day uh... 6 i guess.- 13,452 replies
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really sucks eric. it's really hurtful. it's really hard because you always search for something to rationalize it, but sometimes you just can't. hopefully reminding yourself of her actions will help keep you strong, those actions speak pretty strongly- 13,452 replies
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i broke NC today after just about a month. the NC was at my ex's request, and she emailed me yesterday to say she was ready to meet up if i was, i replied that i'd like a little more time, and she replied that she understood and to let her know when i'm ready. i guess that's pretty healthy. now to continue on the path..- 13,452 replies
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i feel for you, it sounds like you're in a brutal situation. try if you can not to think about where she is and what she may be doing, you'll drive yourself crazy. easier said than done, but worth the effort- 13,452 replies
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day uh.. *counts* 29- 13,452 replies
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i have a feeling that the coming weeks are going to be more difficult than the last few. she was out of the country for 2 weeks and i'm guessing that she's got to be back by now. knowing she was more or less out of reach was a nice crutch. knowing she's just miles down the road is going to make this more difficult. ugh. today was day 21- 13,452 replies
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it's much easier said than done, but maybe you can try to push those thoughts out when they come up? it really doesn't do you any good to wonder like that, it jsut makes it harder. i try to come up with something to think of when i notice myself doing something similar. it happens to be spaghetti. not really sure why, i just think of how the steam feels on my face when i strain it. uh.. not sure that's very helpful. it does get better with some time, but it's not linear progress, sometimes you move forward, sometimes backward, then forward again. sounds like you did real good today; that's a great foundation to build on! *high five*- 13,452 replies
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