rusloi Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 right i had a convo with ex after our break up which went more or less: her: how are u me her: been up to anything? me: yeah just keeping busy...going out on fri her: yeah i might be goin out now me: ok hope u enjoy ur night, how uni, working hard? her: working hard, playing hard me ur enjoying urself her: yeah well i got drunk last friday and got thrown out of a cab. me: ok... her: then had vodka and kicked off with some guys who wanted to come home with me me: at least u got ur admirers....hows the dog? her: and another guy touched my arm i told him to {Mod Edit} off and cud talk to but not touch me me: hows ur family? her: fine thanks...gotta go..im meeting a friend in town. now i got the impression she wanted me to bite but i didnt but now i feel bad and maybe should have shown i cared. i dunno....but its weird cos she finished with me...all my mates said i was right to play it cool....but i feel awful now cos i want her to know i care.... any thoughts on why shes behaving like this and if i did the right thing Link to comment
Biffy Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 Yes she did want you to bite. Your friends are nearly right - but instead of playing it cool, you don't play at all. Ignore her. Don't answer her calls, nothing - she's gone. I don't know your ages but she's certainly immature. Link to comment
rusloi Posted February 23, 2007 Author Share Posted February 23, 2007 yeah...shes 24 and im 30...but i dont understand the psychology of whats goin on....she finished with me - now that is the sort of behviour i would expect from someone who had been dumped....who knows....maybe cos she knew i was goin out she was over compensating.....what do u think peoples...or shud i not rumenate on this too much Link to comment
rabbitskin Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 This one can go two ways, depending on the tone of the conversation. Maybe she's trying to make you jealous. Or maybe, in a more generous state of mind, she's freaked by what happened, you've broken up so her 'protector' is gone, and she wanted you to get upset on her behalf and say that she did the right thing by telling the guy to get lost. Or maybe Zombiaian is right and she just wants to say 'ha-ha, I'm still attractive'. Only you can tell because only you know what she is like. Link to comment
andyg Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 Na, don't worry about it, you handled it perfectly. She shouldn't have put you in that situation to begin with. Women have a tendency to turn into a mess, get drunk, and do stupid stuff after a breakup and then for some reason they want their ex to know all about it. I bit the first few times and it didn't do anything except feed into her ego, she eventually moved on to heavy drugs. Link to comment
rusloi Posted February 23, 2007 Author Share Posted February 23, 2007 HEAVEY DRUGS!!!! WOW...maybe shud get back with her then..get my share....no really cheers but i always assumed the dumper wud at least try to protect the feelings of the dumpee...suppose im all wrong Link to comment
Biffy Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 Women have a tendency to turn into a mess, get drunk, and do stupid stuff after a breakup and then for some reason they want their ex to know all about it. Dude... run away immediately! To the hills with you, quick before one of our female friends on here reads that. Link to comment
Massari Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 I am sorry she played the jealousy card this time, (I know this is tough because I went through the same thing but the difference was that I was the one who ended things with her) and knowing she was the one who broke things off this can clearly be a way for her to justify her actions and the decision about breaking up with you. She wanted a response from you and you acted just right by changing the subject every time she said something about a drunk guy touching her and all. be strong .. I can learn from you mate.! Link to comment
rabbitskin Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 Dude... run away immediately! To the hills with you, quick before one of our female friends on here reads that. What, andyg be offensive? I don't believe you. He gives great advice and doesn't hate women *at all*. Link to comment
v8vachon Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 Very funny Zom..lol No but Seriously, RUS.. this chick is very immature, sounds like you may be too good for her. If she wants you to bite, she's playing games, call her bluff dude! Tel lher to quit playing her games or dont call u at all! I have NEVER bragged to an ex about getting messed up, I may have drunk dialled them a couple of times, crying baout how i wantthem back, but then again i was not the dumper! She's TOTALLY playing you, and if you bite, she will play you even harder, so dont and if you feel bad about not biting. Cut her off, dont answer her calls. she may regret leaving you, but why not just say that? She's dumb and immature! Link to comment
andyg Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 I really don't hate women, I just don't like the vindictive ones. They always have a tendency to try to take advantage of me... I used to let it just happen but now I'm getting to the point where I'm turning into a little bit less of a doormat. It's not just women, guys have a tendency to walk over overly sweet girls too. You get damaged enough and it changes your outlook. Link to comment
rusloi Posted February 23, 2007 Author Share Posted February 23, 2007 fair dos...i will carry on NC.....but its v hard....she finished with me cos she said she didnt have the energy to make it work (got a lot on + suffering from depression).....at this stage i would like to reconcile but i feel she almost feels like the one whos been dumped...so am i ruining my chances by NCing her...what do people think?.. Link to comment
v8vachon Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 Rus.. u can do better.. she sounds like a bag of drama!.. and sounds like she has you hooked pretty bad. She doesnt have the energy to make it work, why should you drain yourself when she doesnt feel like TRYING at all. She's immature and you really do need to move on. Sorry to be so blunt, but i see you making excuses for her and that is just wrong. Every one has drama that can depress them, it's no excuse to manipulate you and treat you like a doormat. RUS, she will only do to you what you ALLOW her to do. DONT ALLOW her to abuse your kindness. There is a really nice girl out there for you, how can u go gether when your hands are tied bythis EX? Link to comment
rusloi Posted February 23, 2007 Author Share Posted February 23, 2007 fair dos...fair dos....i know what ur sayin and it is difficult and i fully understand when u say my hands are tied...ur right but not by her but myself...i gotta get a grip...i know there is a woman out there for me but i just wanna be happy with myself first...maybe thats the crux...maybe im missing the relationship and not the girl...who knows????? but thanks again Link to comment
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