I Need Help With Asking "Him"...

[lazy_day_blues]

I really like this guy, and I came close to asking him if he was gay. But I just couldn't. I told him that I knew something about him, so he could get interested in what I had to say. We are close friends and all, its just this question is not an easy one to ask. I can tell he's gay, even some of my friends who are in some of his classes said he's gay. He rides my bus, and he's really nice to me, I wanna know if he feels the same way I do. How is the best way to ask him; I'm not out yet and don't intend to be either...that's the frustrating part. He is somewhat of a jock, and I dont think he'll want to be out either. All I'm asking is how can I ask him and get an honost answer? Please, help me...

[cacain119]

part of me wants to say *isn't that his business?* -- why do you need to know right now?

[chblueguy]

i think you 2 are at an age when sexuality isn't concrete. He may not even be sure, much less ready for a relationship. I don't think I'd persue it.

[Tigris]

I don't think he's going to be angry if you end up 'outing' him before he's ready.

 

Just become friends and build on that relationship until you are both prepared to come out of the closet.