I don't know

[xfire]

Okay,

 

I met this girl, ow about a year or so ago. We had two classes together in school, during the 1st semester. We talked here and there, about class and a few other things.

 

During the 2nd semester we had only one class together. We talked a little more, about random things. At the end of the year we signed each others yearbooks, and got email and stuff.

 

We traded a few emails and I found her phone and called after she got back from Hawaii. When I called she seemed really tierd, but that might have just been jet lag, or boardom and not wanting to talk to me. Who knows.

 

We talked for about 20 minutes, and then she had to go do somethin for her parents. Okay, getting wordy now.

 

The thing is, I don't know what she thinks of me. Some freak that she talks to now and again, or what. She has a busy schedrel. I asked if she would like to do something, when she has time, and she said she would like that, but I don't know if she was just being nice.

 

She always seemed shy around me, and I know shy. I have been shy for years.

 

What is going on? I like her, she seems nice and all that good stuff. What should I do? What should I look for?

[segagirl]

Ok you seem a little wishy washy. Dont say to a girl can we go out sometime then not have a plan. Call her and ask her to do something. This is how you will get to spend time with her to see if she seems interested.

[tobigahart]

Yeh apparently we have to pretend we're confident regardless of the real guy we are My greatest problem is that I always assume everyone thinks like me. For instance, if I really liked a girl and she called me up no matter how damn tired I was I would talk to her all night long. But "maybe" what you might think someone is thinking is not actually what they are thinking.

Back to you ----> If she is shy like you say then I am guessing she'll want you to take command. And besides, if you dont see her anymore anyway you can't have that much to lose.

Regret will always be your greatest enemy causing far more sadness than you'll get from going all out and risking what you have now, which if you think about it isn't that great. Trying to be "just friends" with someone to whom you feel more for just won't work.

If she rejects you, maybe a day or two you'll feel a bit sad but you will feel the great weight on your shoulders lifted right off once you recover. And no more worries, no more stress... you can move on.

Best of Luck! If she isn't keen then she's not the one and you're better of knowing that sooner than later

[xfire]

The thing is that I know she has like no free time and the such. She lifeguards and couchs a swim team, tuters and is on call to this other place.

 

I am also not one to take command, unless I really know them, like pretty good friends and the such.

 

I did email her this morning about a few things, but I don't think she logs on that much. And when i do see her log on, its usually one of her younger sisters.

 

I also know a friend of hers, and I was trying to get in contact with her, for about two hours. I called back around 8:20pm, her dad icked up, and this is how the call went.

 

ME: Hello. "Is Ali home?"

 

HER DAD: "Who is this?"

 

*Red flag for me*

 

ME: "Russell."

 

HER DAD: "I don't think she's home. Bye." *click*

 

And I know she was home, becsaue I had called back about 30 minutes before and her mom said she was in the shower, and I said I would call back and her mom said okay. So I have no idae what the hell is going on there.

 

But the problem is that Niki (the orgianel girl) and Ali are like best friends. So if Ali told her dad to just hang up on me, then she may tell Niki about it, and I would be totaly scwed.

 

I had been trying to get a hold of Ali becasue she had to pick up her brother from work the day before when we had been talking, and we had been in the middle of something. Ali and I will both me going to Chico in the fall, and it dosn't look good, even to just be friends with her.

 

But like I said, she might of told Niki, already now less, and that could screw me over with Niki. What should I do? I do have Ali's email, but I don't think she checks her Chico account yet.

[segagirl]

ok really serious about the wishy washy thing. Do you hear yourself? You are making excuses, and way over anazlying this. Dad's get 10 billion calls a day for their teenage daughters....and they could care less about lying for thier kids. She may really not have been home, or dad may simple have not wanted her to be using the phone agian.

If you have not asked her to do anything how do you know she does not have the time? excuses excuses here! god lord man, make a choice and ask her out, you can even say, i know your really busy...could you find the time to see a movie with me? If she is into you, she will find the time.

suck it up and take action.

[xfire]

I know. I am that way, it seems.

 

I just talked with her, and damn do I feel like an idiot. I had not clue she had a b/f. I should have known, she is very good looking, and seems to open up with people she knows.

 

Did I already say, I feel like an idiot?

[segagirl]

oh shit. I am so sorry sweetie!

[xfire]

Well I am glad I know now, then finding out a different way later. Like when we go out to do something, and he happens to show up.

 

The worst thing is, I know the guy, and I don't like him!!!

 

A good thing is a very large weight is now off my scholders. I don't have to try and "win" her over, and I don't need to worry about Ali telling what happened, since Niki (the girl I like) already has a b/f, and I most likly wont care much.