I want to call him! Are there any consequences?

[Hope75]

It's great that you are working on your issues, but you are not 100% at fault here, and your ex shoud also be working on his issues as well. It's all well and good if you know how to approach him, but if he doesn't know how to react to you or communicate constructively with you, your therapy isn't going to help that.

 

What about his insecurities and controlling behaviour? Your therapy isn't going to change that for him either.

 

If therapy by yourself is helping you, great, but you should also consider therapy together, and if he isn't willing now, than I question how much he is willing to invest in this relationship, and to making it work this time.