don't know what to do anymore...

[icare]

I broke up with my ex a month and a half ago. I was pretty devastated, losgin my dog and grandpa at the time as well. What happened was, I've been going out with this girl for about 6 months, everything was great with her, no fights no arguments until beginning of march. In total we had about 3 little arguments/fights, after the first 2 arguments happened she asked for a "break." I said no, well cause i don't take breaks too well, i think that they could be the end of our relationship. 3rd argument came around she asked for another one after we argued abit. I got caught up in the moment and said something i shouldn't have, "do you think maybe we should break up?" She hung up on me tried calling back, no answer, went to her house, no answer. Did everything i could to apologize for what i said. I know it was a dumb move, but like i said i got caught up in the moment. I've gotten several emails from her after that incident telling me to move on and best wishes.

 

I've realized what I've done wrong and changed for the best. I realized she needed space and have given her that. I've matured alot from the whole incident and changed the way I look upon things.

 

I met her last week for the first time in a month, had dinner and walked around. After we were done everything drove her back home. I know I should've kept my mouth shut and ended the night with a good bye and take care, but I sked her, have you ever thought about us getting back together? all i got was a long pause and I don't know. I know I set myself up for that one.

 

please give me some advice...

[kungfumaster]

hey icare,

 

don't worry - we've all been there where we're just caught up in the emotions, and regret what we did or said later. hey, we're all human - give yourself a break. being able to control our emotions and think with our heart and minds in sync takes time to learn and master. as you said, you've already learned.

 

give her somemore time and space. maybe in the meantime, just try to move on. you've been through alot with losing your dog and your grandpa - give yourself sometime to grieve these losses. you have to realize that your just human, and she's only human. so maybe, just let it go for now. if she comes back, then she comes back. if she doesn't then, she has lost out on a good and decent person.

 

take care.

kung fu

[icare]

time and space is all I can do, but I can't stop thinking about her...

[icare]

would NC be the best way to go?

i get the urges to call her everyday but i try to hold back