friends -> new/renew/keep/best

[inteletic]

hey guys,

 

next year i will be in my final year at college and will be turning 18. i feel that i do not have a best friend, a friend who i will invite to my 21st birthday, or in the future my wedding as my best man.

 

about myself. i'm 17, male, id like think i'm a pretty intelligent and athletic guy who's pretty good in most of my school subjects especially maths and sciences. which i'm planning to also do next year and hopefully get a degree eventually at uni.

 

in my first year at college i used to hang out with friends from my old school (all mostly intelligent and athletic also), but due to the fact that we were all in different classes, we all drifted apart and made new friends. i used to have two really good best friends, we used to invtie each other to birthdays etc but that doesn't happen anymore. i still occasionally talk to them but don't feel that we had the same conection as we did back then. one of my friends left the school, but i've lost contact with him.

 

the friends that i did have in the same class, i kinda ditched for some more intelligent friends for the sake of getting better school marks at that time. but now i regret ditchin them, as i liked how we used to talk about everything, girls, cars, sports, movies etc

 

i find my current friends kinda boring, not oudoorsy, not my type anymore ... not a potential bestman/best friend. we get on pretty well, we mostly talk about computers, games, school, not girls (btw their not gay) .. i guess thats pretty much it. they do not have same physique as me so they i thats why they're alway behind the computers or stayin at home to study while there's a sports day. my being with them i think is the reason as to why i am not the guy i used to be, hence the reason why i haven't had any girlfriends since or for that matter few female friends

 

i have made and lost many friends but have never had friends or a best friends like i did back then. last year i tried to kinda get back with them but to no avail, as i felt i wasn't wanted anymore, it didn't feel right.

 

i was just wondering if anyone out there is/was in a similar situation as myself and how they are/did deal with it. or how to make new frends/keep them, how to renew old friendships, or not to worry about the best friend/bestman thing as of yet. or should i just keep the friends i got.

 

thanks in advance and also for taking your time

 

confused 17 year old

[ang3l2004]

Just get in touch with the friends you use to hang out with the ones that were true friends and that will be there even if you have been gone for a bit,I say just call them up tell them you would really like to hangout again or just meet new people go out have fun meet people that are like you and like to do things that you do.

[SaSaRai]

Hey , even though I'm 15 I understand the way you feel. What I think you really need to do is just look around and try to find someone new and refreshing, but keep the friends you have right now incase things aren't what you expect. It's a tough job to find that "perfect" best friend, and I don't know about you but sometimes it is heartbreaking searching just for the right one. (kind of like with a girlfriend and breaking up) A TRUE FRIEND will like you for who you are and just the way you are and nothign will change that, not even seperation..... you will always be best friends. There are so many "false friends" out in the world. Try getting out and meeting new people and giving people a chance to get to know eachother better. Believe me, the last person in the world you would expect to be friends with, may end up being your best friend before its all said and done.

 

The best way to make a friend, is to be a friend. Just act friendly and find someone you are interested in. Then just be nice to them with some compliments and by being there for them when they need someone.

 

I hope that helped you some......

[inteletic]

thanks so far guys

 

so what about this best man thing?

 

am i to young to worry about that yet? .. lol i don't even have a girlfriend yet

[SaSaRai]

do you mean bestman as in "wedding"? i dont think u do ... but , yes ... in my opinion a BEST FRIEND is more important than a girlfriend because - no matter what , if that BEST FRIEND is true to you, then he will ALWAYS be there for you, even more than your girlfriend or spouse... i have seen this so much.