seababy Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Is it wrong to go out with 29 year old guy im only 17 and i really like him. Link to comment
dreamweaverdude Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Be very careful seababy. Age is not an issue really so long as you know what you are getting into. Wrong? No..... BUt get other opinions...... Link to comment
seababy Posted October 29, 2004 Author Share Posted October 29, 2004 im being careful Link to comment
Shelby911 Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 It's not really "wrong" but... be careful... Do you know his intentions...? Is he attracted to you, n what about you ?? Link to comment
chanceit Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 legally its fine (in the uk i think anyway) The thing that would bother me is how much do you have in common with someone that much older than you. Do you share interests etc or do you just fancy him, is it his money....then again depends what sort of relationship you are looking for... Is it wrong? i don't know - i personnally wouldn't feel comfortable if one of my friends were in simular gap situation - but it doesn't mean i'm right... Link to comment
seababy Posted October 29, 2004 Author Share Posted October 29, 2004 i just fancy him Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Just think that he has 12 additional years of experience/knowledge than you do. It is possible that he could manipulate the situation to his advantage. You also want to think about why he is interested in a 17 year old (maturity wise, some where his age)? Just think about things before you get into the situation. Link to comment
Shelby911 Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 i just fancy him Do you want a relation whit this man? Link to comment
chanceit Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 I guess the point people are trying to make is that: you fancy him but you must fancy lots of people whats special about this guy over the others....As in is he worth the effort Link to comment
seababy Posted October 29, 2004 Author Share Posted October 29, 2004 he is worth the effort Link to comment
tiger_lilies Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Seababy, I have a friend who is over 30. I've known him for a long time. I know his ways with women. He told me once that he had picked up this 18 year old girl while she was waiting for the bus. He told me that his intentions were to sleep with her. He had no real interest in being in a serious relationship with her. I called him a cradle robber. Anyway, they went out on one date and he never called her again. I can't control what my friend does, but I was disapproving of this entire thing. My friend is not a dangerous person, but he is definitely a person who's intentions are all for sex. You should find someone closer to your own age for a romantic relationship. Believe me, it's so much more fun that way. Link to comment
Nick3964 Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Hi Seababy, Usual first impressions to your sort of situation is that the guy must just be after sex or people wonder how two people 12 years apart could ever have an interest in each other. Well people are not usually that pragmatic and sensible about who they fall for. People meet and sometimes just "connect" magically. I'm 16 years older than my wife. We met when she was a couple years older than you. We've been married for over three years and it keeps getting stronger. We talk a lot, do everything together, and have many interests in common. Just because she's younger doesn't mean she has no brain (she's smarter than me!) and just because I'm older doesn't mean I'm a pervert. Sure, we get the usual judgements that go along with a situation like ours, but we laugh it off. I say: if you feel that your relationship is equal and genuine and real, go for it! Follow your heart and be happy. Good luck! Link to comment
tea Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Be careful! Take care of yourself. Other than that, it's not wrong. This guy who won Kendo championship after 3 years of learning kendo... (genius.. omg \0/) well, his wife is 14 years younger than him. The two of them grew up together, he was even there at the hospital when she was born and he virtually helped her parents raise her. Now they're happily married for almost 20 years. ^_~ I haven't seen another man who's so much in love with his wife. Even now he just lightens up everytime he gets a chance to talk about his wife. According to him, she's perfect! There's nothing wrong with her. Smart, beautiful, understanding, strong, interesting... ^^; I hope that'll be your case. I hope anyways. >_ Still, keep in mind that you have to protect yourself and don't let what tiger lilies described happen to you okay? Link to comment
dancergirl87 Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 personally i dont think its wrong if you actually like him for who he is. Link to comment
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