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  1. If you think it would be too difficult to have him living with you for a week, as only a friend, after growing close for 8 months, I'd be honest and ask him to make other arrangements, at least when it comes to where he sleeps. No one could possibly know what's truly going on in his head, but him. It seems like a game. He could be afraid of comittment. He could just want some light fun without any responsiblity or accountability. Maybe he's involved with another or others. Maybe he doesn't feel the same way as you do. It's so difficult when relationships get complicated and you end up playing guessing games as to what the other really means or wants. Don't go there. As hard as it is, stand up for yourself, for your needs, and what you can accept.
  2. Scandypop is absolutely right. The balance of power is far too much with him and he is taking you for granted. Pull back and let the chase begin. Distance yourself a little. With his continued interest in what your doing, he's obviously still very much interested in you. Make him initiate all contact for a while. He should be the one to call. It should be his idea to get together. Start making your own plans without him and be busy sometimes. And stand your ground about the sex. Be polite but very firm. If you're just friends, then do not make love.
  3. I also would have been furious if you had shared, with my parents, something that I considered private and personal, although I understand you were probably scared and trying to help. Regardless, I'm not sure that there was anything for you to "ruin" since he had broken off with you already. He could be down, but I think he's using depression as an excuse to break off. If he's truly depressed, wait for him to reach out to you. You can't force your help on to him. Until then, I'd respect his wishes, as hard and painful as that might be.
  4. Hi Seababy, Usual first impressions to your sort of situation is that the guy must just be after sex or people wonder how two people 12 years apart could ever have an interest in each other. Well people are not usually that pragmatic and sensible about who they fall for. People meet and sometimes just "connect" magically. I'm 16 years older than my wife. We met when she was a couple years older than you. We've been married for over three years and it keeps getting stronger. We talk a lot, do everything together, and have many interests in common. Just because she's younger doesn't mean she has no brain (she's smarter than me!) and just because I'm older doesn't mean I'm a pervert. Sure, we get the usual judgements that go along with a situation like ours, but we laugh it off. I say: if you feel that your relationship is equal and genuine and real, go for it! Follow your heart and be happy. Good luck!
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